If she is not asking questions, do this

Why isn’t she asking me questions? Seems like she’s not even wanting a conversation with me…

Say you meet her at a bar and exchange numbers, or maybe you both like each other and start exchanging messages. Because at one point she showed an interest in you that matched your own. She wouldn’t have answered “yes” if she hadn’t. Here comes the part where things get murky….You send her a series of texts that follow all the best practices you’ve read about…She keeps answering your questions though, so there’s that. Absolutely not. It resembles this:

To tell you the truth, there are a lot of different reasons why this is taking place. And, after years of collecting answers as to why a woman would act like this (or, in this case….lack of answering…), it comes down to two reasons, and once you recognize which reason it is, it is simple to find a solution to either one of them.

Watch my Youtube video below as I go through the two reasons why she’s not engaged in the conversation, why she’s not asking you questions, and what you can do right now

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What Does It Mean When A Girl Doesn’t Ask Questions?

If she doesn’t seem too interested in the conversation, there are two layers to why this is. One is recognizing she’s not enticed by the conversation, and the second is very evident for you — she’s not asking you questions. So, let’s go through both of them…

The questions you’re asking may not be helping you two connect. Most of the time, many start off conversations with “so how’s it going?” or “so what’s your favorite….?” and quite honestly, those starters lead to a boring conversation. It’s very common for men to ask about your day, your favorite food, travel destination, and what you like to do.

But, those topics lead to more information about the interest itself, not the person. And especially if you don’t share the same interest or talk about why you enjoy those interests, the conversation leads to the dead end  “oh, I see” and “that sounds cool”

Women appreciate it when you take time to get to know them. And that is done by asking the right questions. Questions that allow you to actually get to know who she is, her journey, her values, and her viewpoints.

One leads you to learn more about Paris, while the latter leads you to learn more about her views on travel, what she looks for, her process, and her travel spirit.

So let’s stop asking “how’s your day?” and start asking “what’s the highlight of your day?”

That question allows her to give a more meaningful answer, instead of “I’m good. You?” and you’ll learn a lot about what she chooses to share and what a highlight means to her.

So start reflecting on your text messages and see if your questions are actually allowing you to get to know her. Are they surface level questions? Are they questions about the interest/hobby? If yes, let’s try to switch it up!

 

How Do I Know If A Girl Is Not Interested?

If a woman is not showing any interest in you and she is not asking you any questions, there are only two possible reasons for this:

1. She’s not interested in having a relationship, maybe just a texting buddy or a distraction

2. There’s not much about you to be curious about (sorry, did that sound harsh? Just being direct here…but let me tell you what you can do 😀 )

If a lady initially expressed interest and gave you contact information to message her, it’s usually #2.

So how do you allow her to be curious?

This is where knowing your attractive traits and how to talk about it is incredibly important.

Most men think that if a woman doesn’t ask “what about you?” then you can’t talk about yourself.

Not true. You don’t need an invitation to tell a short fact about yourself.

Just because she didn’t ask you doesn’t mean she doesn’t care, isn’t interested, or an awful person. Many times women forgot to ask, is busy, and quite frankly — if they’re a popular lady with other messages going on, she’s answering because she still has interest but will move onto the next.

Give a fact about yourself

You allow her to get curious by giving a fact about yourself aligning with the topic of conversation. Now, you don’t want to tell your whole detailed personal story, of course. Just a fact so you can allow her to ask the questions if she’s genuinely interested. After her response, you’d share the fact in relation to the topic, then still ask a follow up question. Like below:

Once she reads the fact about yourself, and if she’s intrigued by your answer, she will ask for more detail. Then, of course, she will answer your question.

If you’re thinking

why doesn’t she take the extra effort? Why doesn’t she just read my profile to know what to ask?

I get it, it’s quite frustrating from your point of view where you feel like you have to work so much harder than the lady.

But, here’s the truth…..Quality ladies are in demand, there are plenty of men going after them. Men who see the lady’s worth will pursue them and persist. Women appreciate that quality because it proves how much they are willing to fight for them, which women associate with commitment and confidence.

This is why most women enjoy being pursued, they want to be in a relationship with a leader, someone who goes after what he wants and is completely confident in himself.

So, in the beginning, put in that extra effort to say something about yourself, then have a follow up question. It will help in the long run.

When To Stop Texting A Girl?

Now, I still want you to be in a healthy and loving relationship. So, if you practice this method of saying something about yourself, then asking a question..but you do this for 2-3 days of texting, and she still doesn’t ask you a question…..then let it go.

That’s where it’s obvious she’s only looking for a texting buddy or….she simply only cares about herself (oohhh, I got a little harsh there again…If you’re a lady reading this, sorry but not sorry but that’s the truth)

If you start seeing responses like this, even after following the format from above, it’s time to let it go..

You’d hope to have messages similar to this:

In the above example, she didn’t ask the basic question back of “how about you?” because he shared facts that got her curious. What creative bear sign is she missing?! Haha. My client above also did a great job of stating a simple fact. But not going into the whole story of his broad experience. You want to save those longer stories for the first date 🙂

You will know that you have given it your all and that she is not the one for you if she is unable to even spare a few minutes to ask about you after several days or weeks.

And that’s the whole thing! That goes into why women aren’t engaged, how to fix it, and when to give up.