I understand. I've professionally worked with men feeling like you, dated men like you, and was once just like you.
I'm a natural introvert. Years ago, I was incredibly awkward, shy, quiet, and a die hard anime nerd that had SUCH a difficult time even saying "hi" to a guy I found decently cute - you would cringe seeing me try to wave at a guy #awkwardturtle. It was a problem. I was a nice girl.
Now, I am social, confident, and fearless. The person I always was but too afraid to show. I am me. I went through a dating frenzy when I realized my approaches were working so well and I was going out on dates with all sorts of men.
I will say - I'm still an introvert! That is who I am. However, I was able to dig into a part of me that I did not allow to come out because I was fogged by the traditional values I grew up in with a strict Asian household.
I'm the female who you are currently frustrated and confused with. "All you women say you want a good guy but you end up with the bad boy!" - I know, I get it. And I'm here to help you understand this and help ladies like I once was realize YOU are the ones we really want.
I have the secret sauce to help you understand a lady because....well, I am one.