Text to send after a first date

Getting ready for a date stresses us out–but the most worrisome is the text to send after a first date. So, I am going to be talking about the text you send after your first date. Now, this is obviously really important because if you had a really great date and you want a second date, you’re very aware that the momentum keeps going through texting.

And you wonder, “Well, how do I keep this going? Do you ask for the second date already when you guys text? What do you text?” Is basically the question. Well, I will be answering that for you today, but before we go into that, make sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel. I’m Ruby Love, the dating coach for the good-intentioned gentleman.

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Best text to send a girl after first date

Let’s get into the text to send after a first date. Before I go into the details of the exact text to send, I just want to already prep you in that after the first date when you are saying bye to her, I hope, and if you’re not, that’s really fine, start doing this, but I hope you’re already telling her, “Hey, let me know when you get home safely.” That kind of request shows that you care, because no matter the mode of transportation she used to get to the date, car, public transportation, Ubers, you still want to make sure she gets home safely or wherever she’s going next.

 

This way, you also don’t have to worry about when you should text her, or how many hours you should wait after the date to text her. This way, she already knows she’s going to text you first. If she doesn’t, within 2 or 3 hours, you absolutely have every right to ask her, “Are you okay? Did you make it home safely?” And that’s the start of the text. So, that’s the prep. That’s the prep that I want you to make sure you do. It’s really helpful when you ask her and request her to text you first, but just out of the intent of care and making sure she’s safe. That’s that.

Once that is done. Let’s say, either way, she gets home safely or once again, sometimes after dates, depending on the timing, she could have gone to another event, a friend’s event, she could say, “Hey, I made it to the event.” It doesn’t matter, wherever that goes. Once there’s that exchange, the first text you send back has this structure.

First date text message examples

Things to text a girl after a date

Validate that you had a good time. It could be as simple as dating, I had a good time with you, or I really enjoyed getting to know you. You could talk about the joy, about how insightful it was, and how fun the date was. You could also talk about how much you laughed. Any sort of validation, because it depends on the type of date you had, But you’re just validating to make sure she knows it’s clear you had a good time. And even though you said that already, probably in person when you left her, it’s still really important to reassure and to solidify that kind of validation and compliment. So, the first part of the text, very simply in a few words or sentences stating you enjoyed your time.

 

Validate the Good Time

 

Now what’s next? Because I’m pretty sure, you know, if you just say, “Hey, I’m glad you got home safely, I had a good time with you,” Where does that lead? What would she say after that? You don’t want to just keep it there as a statement because there’s nothing really to answer. So, what should you say right after? There are two options here because it depends once again on what you talked about and what you did on the date.

 

Enquire About the Event

Text about an event. If she talks about the date, how she’s going to like her friend’s birthday after this, or she’s visiting her parents for a quick bit before going home, if she talks about basically not going home right away after your date, then you will either make a statement about the event or you ask a question. So, if the event is probably over because it’s been a while since you’ve texted, you ask a question meaning, “How was that a birthday party? How did that go? How was visiting your parents?” Or let’s say, she just got to the event because she said that and we don’t know how it went yet.

You obviously want to wait a couple of hours to even know how it went. You don’t need to do that in your first text. Once she says she’s at the event, you can state– Oh, validate or compliment, “I had a really great time with you. I hope that your friend’s birthday party goes well as you wanted. Let me know how it goes. Let me know afterward how it went.” That’s that.

That is inviting her to text you after the event itself. “Let me know this,” especially if you don’t know if it’s we can’t necessarily say “How did it go? If it’s still happening” That’s number one in the options of the second part of the text, is if there’s an event because that’s what she talked about.

Text About Common Interests

The more popular text someone would send is based on her interests or hobbies. You guys talked about the topics that you felt like you had in common and that you loved sharing. So, after you validate that you had a good time, let’s say you guys talked about how you share the same kind of music, let’s say you talked about certain DJs that you enjoyed or singers.

After you validate you had a good time, you can share with her and say, “Hey, this is the song I was talking about on Spotify that I really like. Give me a listen. What do you think?” Or invite her to share what she talked about. “Hey, do you mind sharing with me what was that artist that you shared?” Invite more continuous conversation in regard to the hobbies and interests that you two talked about.

Or let’s say if you guys talked about certain articles, learning more about yourself, you can say, “Hey, here’s the link to this personality test that I was talking about. Let me know what you get.” Once again, there’s that invitation. That is based off of more of the interest and common hobbies you guys have found out. Let’s say you guys talked about a game. Maybe that, like, “Oh, hey, I have a new game buddy. We should hop on and play together.”

3 day rule after first date

What I’m trying to say is you want to continue the conversation a little bit of afterward, but you do not, here’s a rule, you do not want to ask for the second date already. No, no, no, I’m just going to say that. That’s the only do not I will tell you here. Do not just validate the date and say, ” I had a really great time with you.

So, when’s the next date?” You need to give her a couple of days, two or three days, just to text, just for her to reflect on the date, just for her to go back into what she’s been doing and not feel like she has to be pressured into figuring out the next plan already. I feel like that could be a little bit much. So, just don’t do that. Continue the conversation a little bit talking about your interest. Then after a couple of days, you can ask for the second date. And that’s that.

That’s the first text to send. I hope that answers your guys’ questions. I received this question quite a bit. But get out there. Go on dates, send that first text, and I will am going to be talking about “what to text continuously or how often and when” in another blog. But for now, if you have any questions, I feel like you still get stuck in the texting conversations, sometimes it does take a little bit more analysis to figure out why you’re losing women or why they’re dropping off. If that’s the case, I encourage you to book a free call with me. I’ll be happy to help and figure out what’s going on.