I’m answering the question, “Is it too late for me to date?” Or, “When is it? Is there an age cap?” The short answer, No. You know why? Because no one can tell you when or when you can’t date. No one dictates that for you. You choose if you want a companion in your life and when you’re going to take action to do so, no matter what age you are. Here’s a random fact for you if you’re thinking you may be too late or you’re too old to date, my oldest client ever was 95 years old. Check out this example below of an older client where I used to work, who found his love. It’s possible! But let me tell you three things about this question to hopefully help you in this journey, and then moving forward and getting your answer.
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The first thing is, I’m going to keep it real with you and tell you that as your age increases, the amount of single people around you decreases. Yes, that is the case. That’s what you’ll be working with as you get older. Of course, in your 20s and 30s, there are more singles because people are just finding who they are, figuring out their careers, and then they’re realizing that they want to settle down.
Those then in their 40s and 50s, now you’re just handling a different crowd because some people have been divorced. They’ve already been married, they have young children, so it’s a different situation to handle. Of course, if you’re 60 and above, people lose their spouses, they become single again, but they do want to find love. What I’m saying is, there are always single people in your age bracket. Are there as many as there were in your 20s and 30s? No, but there are single people there.
That leads to the second point, which is realizing that you just have to get creative and find them. I feel many people think that it’s almost impossible to find any single person around your age, and that stops you from even trying to look. It’s time to get creative and resourceful and look for where your single ladies will be. That’s why there are sites like ourtime.com, which caters to people that are 55 and plus. Match.com and eHarmony now attract more people in their early 40s and 50s. Usually, if you’re younger, then you’re all on the apps. Or, you can go on meetup.com. There are groups that are catered towards specific age brackets, like the 40s and 50s, professionals, or outings, anything. You can look. If you just search, they’re there.
Broaden Your Perspective
Most people don’t think singles around their age are there because their perspective is so narrowed. You are very busy sulking and being bitter that you are at this age, and you didn’t utilize your chances when you were younger. Most people that are asking this question are already feeling very hopeless, low, and jealous of those in their 20s right now because they wished that they utilize their time better. Using your energy to be bitter with those that are not you is just a waste of your energy.
Accept your situation
You’re in a situation you are in now and that is just the truth. It’s time to accept that so you can move forward and actually find ways to get to the result you want, instead of going out and every time you see someone in their 20s or 30s, you’re just sulking at them. I don’t think that is appropriate because you don’t know their story. You can’t be jealous or bitter of them. Let them live their life. Now, it’s time to live yours.
Recognize, It’s possible to find love. I’ve had much older clients, and I’m pretty sure most of you who read this are under 95, but the first thing I want for you to do is to start shifting your perspective. If you’re angry and bitter, and you blame other people, what is that going to help? It’s time to accept and look at people in their 20s and say, “Good for them. I hope they’re utilizing it well. Now, this is my situation. I waited too long, or maybe I spent my whole life in the same relationship. But hey, I am here now, and this is what I’m working with. So what can I do?”
Really try to reduce their negative feelings and start pushing yourself out there and knowing that it’s possible. There are single people around your age bracket. It’s just about being creative and finding them. Know that, yes, single people around you start to decrease as you get older, but it’s time for you to start looking at different circles and finding them. I hope that helps. No, that is possible. No, that is not over. Stop sulking and regretting the past. It doesn’t help, it’s time to move forward.
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