Dennis has been kind enough to share his online dating success story and working one-on-one with me, how he got a date after two weeks and found that special someone.
Dennis is 44-year-old, divorced and has been in the online dating world for quite some time. He made some best strides and tried his luck to meet a quality woman online, but he always ends up in the wrong relationship, which leads him to questions, doubt, and self-sabotage He believed that his standards were too high and always found something wrong with his date. He went on a workout spree and lost 40 pounds, reached out to expert pick-up artist guys who have helped him keep the conversations going with the girls but no luck on what to do next.
He also mentioned that he is a great believer in Ted Talks and never missed a chance to watch it. He took a leap of faith to work with me right after he found my Tedx Talk online and decided to work with me directly.
“I am absolutely blown away with both the message and the sincerity, you came straight from the hearth – Dennis”
Sharing his Online Dating Success Story
He stated that his journey is unlucky due to the things that he didn’t know he’s doing wrong, “In person, when you try talking you can get feedback to improve the message unlike sending email, and you are clueless.” He was not confident enough in finding the quality woman online, it made him frustrated and exhausted. Online dating is one of the toughest and challenging journeys.
I got to know his goals and a bit of him, and right after two weeks of working one-on-one with me, he got a girlfriend! He not only got dates, he learned strategies he hasn’t heard anywhere else, and one of the new learnings he received was that mindset plays an important role. A major obstacle he realized he struggled with before was he has been looking for love in the wrong places, that quality women are often not found in the gym. But, mostly have the same hobbies as his and some do volunteer works.
After doing what I asked him to do on his online dating profile, his dating journey drastically changed. He attracted the quality woman that he has been seeking, and he is now living the best days of his life with the girl of his dreams.
Talk with Dennis
Below is the transcription of Ruby’s online interview with Dennis and has been revised for clarity.
- Ruby: I had a nice talk with Dennis and was so eager to ask him what does he learned from working with me one-on-one. We tackle everything from his failed marriage, how he was able to bounce back from that, where and how to find a quality woman, and everything in between about dating. He was so delighted to have found me in TED talks and tried his luck in reaching me out which leads to something very special.
Stating his struggles
Dennis: Awesome. I’m 44 years old and divorced two years ago, and that’s a huge hit for anyone. I was in the online dating world for a couple of years. I made some really good strides but wasn’t where I wanted to be. The girls I was meeting and getting in relationships with, I was like, “Wow, I always found something wrong with all of them.” It was really beginning to doubt, is it me? Is my standard too high? Am I broken?
I’m a huge believer in and TED Talks. I watch them constantly, and that’s where I found you, and I was absolutely blown away with both the message and the sincerity. You came straight from the heart. When I found you online and read a lot of online dating success story on your website, I was shocked that I get to work with you directly, and that’s what brought me to you.
Ruby: Perfect! At that time when you did seek me out, what was your main struggle in dating? Where did you start prior to even working with me?
Dennis: Well, prior to working with you, like I said, after the divorce, I went on a workout spree. I lost 40 pounds, I got in good shape. I went to the pickup artist guys, I went to a couple of them. They were really good and they really helped me get the conversation going. They’re very expert in that.
Meeting the pick-Up artist
Dennis: Their focus on what girls are thinking right now when you walk up, particularly in the bar scenario. That could be very helpful, but what happens after that? Are those the kind of girls that you really want to meet? If you approach 10 girls in an evening, which ones are the ones giving you the phone number and which ones you’re getting a relationship with?
Then, my results online were horrible because you get no feedback, you send out an email in person you can try talking and you get feedback to improve the message. So, you’re failing online, you have no idea why. That was the biggest struggle. I didn’t know why I was losing online, and I had no confidence I was meeting the girls that were going to make me happy long term.
Big points in online dating
Ruby: The big points were confidence in online dating. Online dating is tough as you know. It is tough, it’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, especially when you don’t know what you’re doing wrong.
Dennis: That’s it, right there. Yes.
Ruby: Tell me what did you learn? After working with me and all of that, what knowledge did you receive?
Dennis: A lot. Right off the bat was your mindset, your mindset is very different.
What I had before how I thought about it is, when I walk up to a girl, what’s she thinking right now? The seminars that have been in the past, that’s what they focused on. Your mindset was completely different. Take a step back, and instead of what she’s thinking right now, what is the woman thinking in her life? When does she want to be approached? I remember you telling me the girl that you want to meet, the quality girl isn’t now trying to meet a guy. If she goes to a bar, she’s with a friend, she wants to hang on with our friends. It’s not what she wants to meet a guy.
Dennis: The quality girls will be the ones I was looking for, you’re going to find them out at the gym, your hobbies, volunteer work.
I was like, “Wow,” you totally changed my perspective. The whole looking for love in all the wrong places. That was me. That was the big takeaway.
I love when you got to know me a bit by looking at my online profile and told me that I am not selling myself the right way when I mentioned the mechanics online. You helped me totally change it, and the results have been astronomical and immediate.
Talking about the results
Ruby: Fantastic. Speaking of which, what are the results?
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Dennis: The results? I’m in a relationship, that’s just awesome!
Dennis: Thank you. It was just the right kind of girl. I met her at Match and I ran into it, we just didn’t hook up, didn’t work out just timing-wise. I ran to her twice in the gym at Wegman’s and intended to crash my car into hers and accused her of being a stalker, and then it was on. When you asked me to take a photo of my dog instead of me flexing in front of the camera that caught her attention is the big thing for me. She reached out to me, and said, “I love your dog’s hairdo.” I was like, “man, that’s awesome.” That’s huge.
Right online dating profile
Ruby: It’s really all about the profile, what you’re attracting, and attracting the right person. Because you were going out on dates before, but not with the right people.
Dennis: That’s right.s
Ruby: You were date while we were working together, but maybe she wasn’t completely the one, but I remember you thinking like, “This is at least what I’m looking for. This is the right kind of woman.”
Ruby: Finding that last missing piece. That’s fantastic. Now, you are dating someone that is?
Dennis: Thank you so much.
Ruby: Great How did you feel about my support, and my kind of style of coaching?
Dennis: I loved it, because, one, you’re a woman, you understand the mindset. Two, what I really liked, even at just a professional level, you were both direct, but caring at the same time.
You weren’t like, “You’re an idiot.” You’re like, “Well, where were you coming from that? What were you thinking about?” You really redirected me. I really have one negative, I paid all this money for all these extra dating services and I didn’t even get one month out of them. From the time you had to fix it, it was not even two weeks before that I was off of it. I appreciate that.
How would consider working with me?
Ruby: Last question here to wrap up. What would you say to someone who is considering working with me? If you were talking to him right now, which you are, what would you say? He’s about to do it, but he’s not sure.
Dennis: I would surely come from my point of view of someone who has taken a second chance in life, someone who’s divorced. I would say that given enough time, you’re going to get your mojo back. Get into the relationship that is best for you without making the same mistakes again. My personal friends have been like, “Why did you do that? Why did you spend the money on it?” I was like, “My divorce cost me a whole lot of money, and I’d like to have another romantic relationship without being burned again. ” I would say, I see you as a little insurance policy.
Dennis: I feel so much better about the relationship I’m in now and can’t believe I am sharing my online dating success story, that I’m in it for the right reasons than I meet her at a bar. It’s the right reason in the right way. I made the best bet money even though I was off the market in two weeks and I am glad that I am sharing my online dating success story with your audience.
Go-to attitude for the success
Ruby: Thank you so much for all the kind words and just to let you know, you’re a big huge part of your success. You have that go-to attitude, like go for it, where I give you the information and you just execute it. At the end of the day, you have to have an attitude, because if I gave you all of that, but you did nothing, it’s not going to do anything for you, but instead, you really took it in and you implemented it. I appreciate that. It’s really been great working with you. Thank you so much for doing this and for sharing your experience with everybody. I really appreciate you. Thank you so much for sharing.
It’s really is your attitude and mindset towards your goal that will define your willingness to achieve it. I am so grateful to know that Dennis is now happy living together with the woman that he attracted after working with me.