Konrad will talk about how to get a girlfriend with a little experience. This story will surely inspire you not to lose hope even though you don’t have much experience in dating.
Konrad is an IT specialist and dated few people with no success because he never felt any connection with any of them. After moving to a new place and changing his career, he realizes that he can’t figure anything out on his own, and that’s what motivated him to work with me.
I guided him through the process and he implemented all the knowledge and strategies. That is how he met his girlfriend. I am so glad to share with you also that they’ve made it official on Facebook (that’s serious)
Relationship official on Facebook
Ruby: Where are you now?
Konrad: I’ve been dating a girl, that I met for about five or six weeks, and we are officially in a relationship.
Ruby: Yay. Facebook official, kind of official.
Konrad: We made it “Facebook official,” if you want to call it that, a couple of days ago. I’m really happy. I’m glad to be with her. I constantly looking forward to the next time I get to be around her and see her.
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Konrad: It’s going really well. I feel a really exciting connection with someone who’s really important and really special to me.
Talk with Konrad
Ruby: Hi, everyone. Thanks for joining us. I have one of my clients here, Konrad with us. He has been open to sharing his experience with you guys, and I’m so excited to have him here. Hi, Konrad. How are you doing?
Konrad: I’m good. How are you?
Ruby: I’m doing well. Thank you so much for doing this again. Everyone’s always looking forward to some kind of inspirational story, and I feel that yours is definitely one of them. Let’s just hop right in, and start off with introducing who you are and what you do just in general.
Konrad: My name is Konrad. I’m 29 years old, I’m an IT specialist. That’s about it for–
Ruby: Nice to meet you. I’m pretty sure everyone would say that. Tell me a little bit more about your dating experience and what got you to work with me.
Konrad’s dating experience
Konrad: I had a little bit of dating experience on my own before I started working with you. It was mainly– or all of it was based on people that I had just met either through friends or mutual friends. We had just dated a few people that I dated just like that. It never really worked out. It never turned into anything successful that I felt– I never really felt a connection with anyone.
Ruby: When was that point, you notice that you needed some guidance, and how–
Konrad: It was after I changed careers and I moved to a new place. I didn’t really know anyone. I realized that I can not figure anything out on my own and considering meeting new people to get new friends and date perhaps.
Ruby: Good. Now, tell us, after working with me, what, for almost a month now? Where are you now?
Konrad: I’ve been dating a girl that I met for about five or six weeks, and we are officially in a relationship.
Ruby: Yay. Facebook official? Kind of official?
Konrad: Yeah. We made it “Facebook official,” if you want to call it that a couple of days ago. I’m really happy. I’m glad to be with her I constantly looking forward to the next time I get to be around her and see her.
Ruby: Yay!
Konrad: It’s going really well. I feel a really exciting connection with someone who’s really important and really special to me.
Ruby: That is so exciting and so good to hear. Tell them a little bit more about how you met her.
Guided process and advice
Konrad: I did one of the online dating sites that Ruby had recommended to me. I built the profile myself. Ruby had guided me through the process and gave me advice on things to say and things to not say and ways to open conversations with people that I was interested in. One day I had seen her profile, and she happened to have a picture of a place that I’d actually lived in and I could recognize it by the background scenery. I asked her “hey, are those these mountains? I used to live there.” and that’s how our conversation started. We just have been talking ever since.
Ruby: That’s fantastic. We talked a lot about strategies online as well, and even that finding something in common that you have with her definitely helped you out in just starting a conversation and continuing from there. You did a really great job in that. Actually, I’m curious, share with them a little bit about how you felt about online prior to even getting online. I know we’ve talked about that before too.
Dispel the apprehension
Konrad: Yeah. I was apprehensive before I talked to Ruby. I tried multiple times before and can’t remember what I did. It’s really unsuccessful and unsatisfied with it. It never felt it was the right thing to do, for me, personally. I was like, “Well, I don’t really want to subject myself to this.” If I want to date someone, I would really like it to be an organic thing that just happens to come up or that we meet each other somehow like that.
Ruby, you really helped me dispel that apprehension and show me that it doesn’t have to be like that. If you do it the right way and you’re willing to commit to doing it the right way, then the online aspect of dating the way it is now doesn’t have to be so difficult.
Ruby: Yes, exactly. Perfect. You basically answered my next question, which was how did you dispel that? I guess you’re saying, I helped you through that process and just the guidance in general about that. Now, that’s how you met your girlfriend. If it wasn’t for that, I don’t know what we’d be doing at this point. What do you think was your biggest obstacle that you have now overcome? Something else.
Recognizing why he needs help
Konrad: I think it was the first part of it all was just recognizing that I would need someone else’s advice, not just my family or my friends because it’s a subject that I was always really uncomfortable with sharing with them.
But with someone like you as a professional who does this for a living, and has a lot of success with doing it, I was more willing to open up this part of my life and get advice on how to make myself more confident in dating arena, and recognize, not necessarily what I was, or who– I don’t know how to put this.
Recognize the kind of person that I wanted to be around, as their characteristics and traits, and imagining what she might be like, where she might be, and then I’m going out and trying to find her like that.
Ruby: You’re actually pinpointing something that everybody goes through. Prior to working with me or even not at all, there’s a stigma with seeking guidance in this. It’s a very different area people would think of while seeking help. What did you tell yourself, or how did you compensate on your mind of being, “This is okay. This is worth it.”
Pinpointing about what everybody goes through
Konrad: For me, I thought what could it hurt? It can only it can really only help me, there’s nothing that can really be detrimental about just asking for advice, and it’s completely up to me whether I want to take it or not. After we had the free call that you gave me, I was like, okay, you clearly understand what you’re talking about and you already gave me a lot of pretty good advice just then and there. I thought it’s going to be worth it to me to hear what else she has to say, and what other pointers and advice she can give me. Even not necessarily just about dating, too, because I’m past the dating part now that I’m in a relationship, but there’s plenty of other aspects to being in a relationship and maintaining that, that you’re going to help me with.
Ruby: Exactly. It seems like all of that because I believe I even stated before, I can’t even guarantee a girlfriend because it’s not– we don’t know the other women out there and what’s going to happen, but you decided to make a high investment of basically developing yourself.
Konrad: Yes.
Ruby: -was going to happen, right?
Konrad: Yeah.
There’s no harm in trying something new
Ruby: Fantastic. Now, just to wrap this up, I want you to speak to the viewers at this point. What would you say to someone who is hesitating still, whether that be because of investment, whether that be because of the fear of just seeking guidance in this, but what would you say to someone that is on that edge of seeking my guidance?
Konrad: I’d say that it’s never going to hurt you to try something new. Especially if it’s something that maybe you’ve tried before, and you don’t think it worked, or you don’t think it’ll ever work, it’s never going to hurt you to maybe go back and revisit it, and try to figure out where you went wrong or what you could do differently this time because that’s what you helped me with, specifically, with online dating since
I’ve tried it, and I hated it, and then you open up to me, it’s worth it to go back and try, but let’s do it this way this time. It seemed like a new thing to me even though I’d done it before, but I’d shelved it forever.
Never going back to the old techniques
Konrad: I had no intention of going back to it. After I was willing to open up and first of all seek advice, I was more willing to try this new thing or this new technique that I’d never considered before that I had turned myself off to mentally.
Ruby: Great! Thank you so much for that, and hopefully, it’s all worth it at this point, because, yeah, you’re in a relationship and you’re happy in it. That’s the main thing. Not just being in a relationship, but you genuinely feel– well, you like being around her, so that’s a good thing.
Thank you so much for joining us today. I really appreciated it. I’m pretty sure the viewers, thank you as well. Are there any other last-minute comments, thoughts, or things you just want to plug in before I let you go?
Grateful for all the learnings.
Konrad: I can just say it’s been great working with you. I really enjoyed all the things that I’ve learned, and I’m still going to be learning things. It’s not over yet. Looking forward to all the things that we have yet to cover.
Ruby: Exactly. Yay, I’m excited too. And because you mentioned that, that’s right. Even if you get into a relationship, there’s so much more to that, whether that be keeping the relationship, where to go from here, okay, what’s the next step? I’m excited to help guide you in that as well. Thank you so much again, and I’ll talk to you soon. Thank you so much, everyone!
Konrad’s story is proof that no matter how little dating experience that you have, as long as you want to try something new that is not harmful at all, you can be successful on your dating journey.