Does dating a colleague a good idea?

“Does dating a colleague a good idea.” This is a really popular question because, besides mutual friends, that’s really the only place you meet new people, you make new friends. College was probably the only time and then next is a workplace.

Now, I know that COVID and the pandemic has changed that. Many people are working from home now. But there’s still a lot of you who are going into work. When new people come in, you may catch some interest and you wonder if it’s a good idea to pursue it or not. So, I’m answering that for you today. Is it a good idea or is it not?

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Is it a good idea to date a co-worker?

It may or may not be a good idea

Short answer to that is it is but it also can or cannot be a good idea. I know. You thought you’d get a straightforward answer from me but that’s just not the case because I’m going to be real. I would like for you guys to know that there are obviously work relationships that have been successful.

 

I’ve seen it personally, I’ve seen it from an outside perspective, someone that’s not close to me like a client or a friend of a friend, they’ve gotten married, they have a family, they’re great. But I have also seen and you may have experienced too, some work relationships that just burned, and it was not good, and it was probably one of the worst decisions they have ever made. What will work for you? That’s the right question to ask. This is about your scenario. So, if you have an interest in somebody, is it a good idea?

 

Is dating a coworker awkward?

Well, the only thing I want for you to ask yourself in regards to this is, how confident are you in making sure that if you tried to pursue her, will it pan out well? And if it doesn’t, can you make sure it doesn’t get awkward? That’s the main thing to focus on. Can you make sure you are confident in yourself and how you communicate and who this person is and dealing with that you will not let it affect work or make any awkwardness with her? Not feel any bitterness towards her? 

So, that includes if you guys do get into a relationship and it’s doing really well, but then all of a sudden, maybe had a bad date or you’re really confused, you didn’t let it affect your work. Same thing is if you went out with her just once and it didn’t turn out well, she decided to reject you, are you confident that you’re not going to make it awkward and you know how to talk to her about that.

 

What to do if you like a coworker?

Now, on how to get into these relationships is a totally different story. There are all these steps to it, but what I do want to talk about today is if it’s just a good idea. Quite honestly, it’s really only a good idea when you know where you stand in the workplace. For example, there’s a difference between if you work both as servers at a restaurant or you’re both bartenders versus if one of you is at a very much higher level in the company than the other and how much that would affect the other people around you or favoritism.

Really step back and think to yourself, how comfortable are you in this? How confident are you in pursuing this? Is it going to be worth trying no matter what? You, also, don’t want to regret not trying. If this is someone of high interest to yours, it’s going to be hard to accept just being a coworker. If you know it could be a really good match for you. I encourage you to go for it. You’d rather regret trying than not trying. Also, it’s never bad to be real and authentic with your feelings.

 

Are workplace relationships worth it?

Once again, what matters here is your handling of the situation no matter what her answer it. No matter what happens, you know for yourself, you will not make it odd and it will not affect your work performance and other work relationships, with your colleagues and anything else. That’s important.

Once you got that figured out, then you’ll feel more reassured of the decision to pursue her. There are other steps after you make that decision to tell her the truth and pursue you. And know, sometimes it’s not you. It could be a rule she has created for herself. We don’t know if she even believes in work relationships because some people are very against it and are open to it. But once again, that’s a completely different story. Today, it’s about figuring out if it’s a good idea for you to even pursue.

 

Yes, coworker crushes are common; spending time together can lead to attraction. However, professionalism is key when navigating workplace feelings. If you have a work crush, I hope this helps you in figuring out what your next step is. Know that at the end of the day, this is your heart and your potential love success. It can be scary to put yourself out there in such vulnerability, but ask yourself — if it all works out, will it be worth it?

Even if it doesn’t will it be worth it? (I’d say yes because no matter what…you get an answer and you learn) Because as I always say, my favorite saying is….no one ever said finding love would be easy. But, it’s always worth it.