She’s sending mixed signals: What to do

Women frequently send confusing signals without realizing it. So now, I am going to discuss “what to do when a girl gives you mixed signals?” It’s those moments where you feel she’s flirting with you, she’s engaged in this conversation with you, but there’s no overt behavior or true real expression of her interest in you, so you’re confused and you don’t really know where to take it. I’m going to be showing you today the three steps you can take to untangle that confusion for you and figure out how she really feels about you.

Now, before I get into that, I do want to state that I get this question mostly from men who are dating their friends or have a crush on their colleagues, but also, it can work for online dating relationships too. Because even though, you met through a dating platform, girls can send you mixed signals and you feel you’ve been on three dates with them, but you’re not too sure what’s going on. So, it should cover all of that.

 

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Make Sure That It’s a Date

 

Let’s get into the three steps. Number one is making sure that you make it clear that when you go on a date, it’s a date, not a hangout. That’s probably the biggest obstacle I have seen for many guys. They ask their colleagues for happy hour, “Hey, you want to come with me today, hang out?” and they hang out with you. But that doesn’t mean it’s a date.

It’s very important to make it clear to them. “I want to take you out.” Better yet, “I want to take you out on a date.” That way, it’s very clear to her, your intent is to see if there’s a potential romantic relationship there. If she accepts, then that means that she’s accepting getting to know you with that in mind. So, if you’ve been hanging out with ladies, let’s start switching up the language and making sure that it’s clear to her that it’s a date.

 

Don’t Forget to Flirt

 

 

Number two. You want to make sure that you flirt on the date, you’re giving compliments and expressing these interests on the date by stating things like “That is very attractive of you or that’s a trait I’ve always admired from you, and that I’ve always looked for in a woman.” You’re overtly saying I’m interested in you. And that way, you can see how she responds. If she’s uncomfortable, if she backs away if you try to hold her hand, she quickly pulls away.

Because the truth of the matter is, if a lady isn’t interested, she’s not going to respond to that very well, she’ll stay very quiet or continuously feel she just doesn’t want to get close to you. Now, with the physical aspect, it is okay to ask her about it, because some girls are just slow to warm up. But I will tell you that if a woman is not interested, she won’t even be on that date. And number two, she will find a way to leave. So, just make a note of that.

But overall, it is important for you to make sure that that interest is clear to her, so she is not confused. I hope, we hope that she does respond back in telling you what she thinks is attractive or what she likes about you. If not, you can start playfully asking her like, “Oh, obviously, we’ve been hanging out and obviously, you’ve been back and enjoying it. What is it about me that has you still coming back and hanging out with me? I’m just curious.” You can playfully ask that.

 

Be Direct

 

Now, that leads to the final step. Number three is more so about being direct. That’s probably the best way to find out how someone is feeling about you. If after those two steps, you’re still confused, it’s really important to say how you feel and ask her, what do you think? How do you feel? Say that you like her, say that you could potentially see a relationship with her and that you want to pursue this.

If it’s a colleague, then I talk about that in another video about how to handle work relationships, and if that’s a good idea, so you can watch that. But making sure that that is known and ask her, “What do you think? How do you feel about me?” I know it’s scary to do this and many guys don’t want to, because there is that potential percentage of rejection. But honestly, don’t you want your answer?

Getting your answer is better than staying in this really confused space and continuously hanging out with her, not knowing how she actually feels or potentially wasting your time. So, make sure you get the answer.

 

If it’s the other way around

 

If it’s a no, it’s unfortunate, but let it go. Process, and move forward, and just learn from this experience. But I know it’s going to hurt a little bit, at least in the beginning, but pick yourself back up. Recognize it’s not over, it’s not a dead end. Learn from it. If you don’t know how to learn from it, you know me, contact me, and we’ll figure out what happened, what we can do differently the next time, and then, you take it from there.

I know it can be scary. When people get confused with mixed signals and they want to find the answer. They don’t want to rock the boat by asking so such a direct answer. But I’m telling you guys, even though, I’m a woman myself, I can’t read all girls’ minds. I can’t speak for all of them. They all have their own feelings, but the best way to know how they feel is by asking them yourself.