Awkward first date? Send this text

We can all agree that first dates are really exciting—however, it is nerve-cracking and can be very awkward at some point…I got you, there is nothing to worry about it! Know that the first date is the initial meeting to process those romantic relationships, and some people go on the first dates to evaluate the compatibility of the other person and taking the opportunity to screen out your dates too.

But— you can not help the fact that first dates can be awkward and we all know that it is pretty much unavoidable, and today I am going to discuss awkward first dates…because there is no denying that first dates can be really awkward…Yes, it is! But I want you to know that it is completely normal, there are different ways to instantly turn your awkward first date around, as a matter of fact, some of my clients went through this phase before they even decided to work with me.

So, have you messed up on the first date? Knew you were completely awkward on the virtual date? And ever since that awkward first date, you know you lost that connection with her. What used to be quick responses now is responses after a day or two. Oh gosh…it’s so painful to know the high connection you two had before the first date, but after you were awkward on the first date that probably got you anxious and you may have “what could I have done better?” thoughts in your head because you knew—it tanked. Is there a way to salvage this? Is there a way to do something about this?

The answer is….definitely a YES!

How to save your first awkward date

The first dates are indeed can be awkward but knowing the valuable things how to save it will definitely allow you to become more confident—how would you be able to do that then?

Two words….own it. That is right, let me say it again…own it.

We are all humans– we make mistakes and we behave off the circumstances. We react off of our emotions…it could be nerves, anxiety, fear, or surprise. Whichever it is, it happens to all of us, and it is completely normal. What you feel during those moments is valid.

And until you tell the other person the reason for your behavior, how would she know?

She may wonder if it is her that makes you act this way, or are you just like this all the time? What is happening here?!

In the moment, even a “wow, I am being so awkward, sorry!” is allowing her to understand you and believe me that she’ll do because she probably feels the same way.

When you are able to acknowledge the elephant in the room, it reduces the confusion with it all.

If you do not acknowledge it in the moment, you can do it after.

You hope she did not notice it, maybe she will forget about it, and your texting will be normal. And the moment the texting responses has slowed down, you feel that she’s pulling away, you realize….it’s over.

How to recover from the awkwardness

Do not worry about it, because it is not too late. You can still always do something about it, just own it, and you can possibly recover from it. 

Instead of disappearing or ghosting (which is the easiest but unappropriate way to go because you are too scared to confront the reality ), it is best to potentially close the chapter nicely while allowing her to understand you. Owning it will:

1. Allow her to understand you
2. Give you the potential to try again, get the 2nd date
3. If not, you will get the answer and can move forward

Do not think it is possible to get a positive response if you send an honest text? This client below sent me this text below when I suggested to own it. Maybe this is similar to your doubts?

 

After we talked about owning it, I pushed him to send the text message, and he texts me this response hours later:

 

And he shares with me this screenshot of his “owning it” text and the best part…..her response! 

She thought it was her the whole entire time! Can you believe it?! Little did he know that the lady is feeling the same way not until he owns it and he tells it. Well, believe it, cause this is real.  This is a great example of the narrative we create in our heads does not always mean the truth, because you guys are overthinkers. And until we directly ask the lady, owning how you feel, explain yourself, we really don’t know the truth. If I didn’t push him to send the text he would have just allowed the ghosting to happen and think it is his fault. It would have haunted him.

I hope that real example helps you see how it can be executed, the response that is possible, and there is no harm in owning it

Owning your quirks

The next time you feel you messed up, your awkwardness may have ruined the first date, remember….it is perfectly fine to mess up, you can charge it to experience, learn from it and most importantly… just, own it, explain, and allow her to understand you 🙂 Owning your quirks, like how William Hung did in this video here, can get you dates.

I am human myself — I always slip on my words, I am quirky and I love it, I talk too fast, and I am weird. But, I accept it, own it, and it is no surprise to my clients and audience. I hope you accept me for it! If not, totally okay, I understand 🙂