Have you messed up on the first date? Knew you were completely awkward on the virtual date? And ever since that awkward first date, you know you lost that connection with her. What used to be quick responses now is responses after a day or two. Oh gosh…it’s so painful to know the high connection you two had before the first date, but after you were awkward on the first date, it tanked. Is there a way to salvage this?
The answer is….yes.
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How to save your awkward first date
Two words….own it. That’s right, let me say it again…own it.
We’re all humans– we make mistakes and we behave off the circumstances. We react off of our emotions…it could be nerves, anxiety, fear, or surprise. Whichever it is, it happens to all of us.
And until you tell the other person the reason for your behavior, how would she know?
She may wonder if it’s her that makes you act this way, or are you just like this all the time? What is happening here?!
In the moment, even a “wow, I’m being so awkward, sorry!” is allowing her to understand you
When you’re able to acknowledge the elephant in the room, it reduces the confusion with it all.
If you don’t acknowledge it in the moment, you can do it after.
You hope she didn’t notice it, maybe she will forget about it, and your texting will be normal. And the moment the texting responses has slowed down, you feel that she’s pulling away, you realize….it’s over.
How to recover from the awkwardness
Don’t worry, it’s not too late. You can still own it and possibly recover from it.
Instead of disappearing or ghosting (which is the easiest way to go because you’re too scared to confront the reality), it’s best to potentially close the chapter nicely while allowing her to understand you. Owning it will:
- Allow her to understand you
- Give you the potential to try again, get the 2nd date
- If not, you will get the answer and can move forward
Don’t think it’s possible to get a positive response if you send an honest text? This client below sent me this text below when I suggested to own it. Maybe this is similar to your doubts?
After we talked about owning it, I pushed him to send the text, and he texts me this response hours later:
And he shares with me this screenshot of his “owning it” text and the best part…..her response!
She thought it was her the whole entire time! Can you believe it?! Well, believe it, cause this is real. This is a great example of the narrative we create in our heads does not always mean the truth. And until we directly ask the lady, owning how you feel, explain yourself, we really don’t know the truth. If I didn’t push him to send the text he would have just allowed the ghosting to happen and think it’s his fault. It would have haunted him.
I hope that real example helps you see how it can be executed, the response that is possible, and there’s no harm in owning it
Owning your quirks
The next time you feel you messed up, your awkwardness may have ruined the first date, remember….it’s okay to mess up. Just, own it, explain, and allow her to understand you 🙂 Owning your quirks, like how William Hung did in this video here, can get you dates.
I’m human myself — I always slip on my words, I’m quirky, I talk too fast, and I’m weird. But, I accept it, own it, and it’s no surprise to my clients and audience. I hope you accept me for it! If not, totally okay, I understand 🙂
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