It’s not a pleasant feeling to notice someone is starting to pull away. People of all ages hate rejection. Nobody wants to feel like they are undesirable or that others avoid them at all costs. The heartbreak increases when the person who no longer appears interested is one that you have been in an ongoing relationship with.
Men often question every move their significant other makes and assign wrong reasons to the woman’s behavior. How can a man know when a woman is pulling away? What signs should he be looking for? Let’s be clear, if she’s pulling away, this is why. The following are five indications that she is losing interest that every male needs to be aware of and watching for at all times.
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5 signs she’s pulling away
1. Vague Responses
Women lead busy lives today. If a woman provides a vague answer in response to an invitation, don’t immediately take this as a sign she is pulling away. She may simply have other commitments that must take precedent.
How can a man know when the problem is deeper than an overwhelming schedule? What are the signs that she is pulling away overall as opposed to simply unable to meet at the time you requested?
Don’t attempt to set up a time to meet. Instead, start a conversation focused on other topics. If her answers remain vague when the focus moves away from adding another commitment to her schedule, it may be that she is losing interest.
Don’t become discouraged yet! Keep in mind that other things may be taking precedence at this time. You’d hope for a response like this below:
Pay attention to her texts as well.
Send a funny meme that tickles your funny bone. If she responds with nothing more than LOL or an emoji, the conversation likely won’t go anywhere. A woman who is interested usually provides a longer response. Obviously, circumstances play a role here, such as when she is checking out in a store. She might not be able to send anything more because she is otherwise occupied. Don’t stress over a quick response if it rarely happens. When it happens all the time, however, your relationship might be on its last legs.
See if the vague answers become a pattern.
If they do, then it is time to become worried and take steps to try to salvage the relationship. Be direct when asking questions, but the key is to not overthink her every word or action. Patterns are more important when it comes to a significant other. Anyone can have a bad day. It’s when the bad days begin to outweigh the good ones that a man needs to be concerned his partner is no longer interested and is preparing to move on.
2. Slow responses
Women tend to be more involved in social media and personal interactions than men. In fact, insurance rates for females are on the rise because women are more likely to check their phones while driving! They like to respond to others immediately. If this has been the case with the woman you are seeing and that changes, it needs to be determined why.
Circumstances may be the cause of the slow response. For instance, a woman in the middle of a major business meeting typically cannot respond without jeopardizing her position within the company. That is completely understandable, as she needs to work to support herself. On the other hand, if she says she will be home doing nothing all weekend and fails to respond to texts or calls, it’s time to be worried. This is especially true when she previously responded to texts and calls right away and now it takes her hours or days to do so.
Sadly, ghosting has become common in the digital age. It’s easy to receive a text and simply ignore it or send a phone call to voicemail. People don’t hesitate to use these methods to put a halt to a relationship now. For those who don’t want to directly tell the other person the relationship has ended, ghosting is one way to get the message across. It never hurts to be direct and ask her straight out if she has moved on. Nevertheless, this must be handled properly.
Question to ask
One thing men often do is they ask questions that can be answered with one word. Try to ask a question that requires a longer response to draw her out. When this doesn’t work and the response is still slow or nonexistent, it might be time to move on from the relationship. This shows she is starting to pull away and you may want to do the same.
3. Canceled Dates
When plans are made and she cancels at the last minute or delays the date, don’t panic. Things happen that a person cannot control, and one delay or cancellation isn’t cause for concern. If this begins to happen with regularity, however, the relationship could be in trouble. When the date isn’t rescheduled or no explanation is given for the delay or cancellation, there is a reason to be worried as well.
Getting together with your significant other shouldn’t be like pulling teeth. These meetings ought to be something both parties look forward to. Repeated cancellations signal there are problems that must be addressed or the relationship will likely falter.
Every person needs his or her privacy. Nevertheless, secrets destroy many relationships. If a partner suddenly begins leaving the room to take calls, keeps her eyes on her phone, then it’s time to find out why. Finding out instead of assuming is important, it could be she is planning a surprise and doesn’t want you to learn about it too soon.
You’re not looking for her to just respond, you hope she answers fully, expanding on her response. If she continues to give you short answers, it’s pretty evident that she is pulling away. But, if it’s like the message below, you don’t have anything to worry about.
5. Lack of interest in you
When a female is interested in a male, she’ll ask about his day or want to learn more about him. If your significant other doesn’t do this anymore, she might be on her way out the door. A relationship involves two people. When one person is doing all of the work to keep the relationship going, it’s time to move on.
Pay attention to the volume of questions. Some people talk very little, even when they are in a committed relationship. They are simply quiet and only speak when they feel they have something important to contribute to the conversation. Others, however, love to ramble on for hours and can talk about any subject or ask questions without ceasing. It’s a change in the normal pattern of the behavior that should have you concerned more than anything else.
If she’s not asking you questions, read this blog post for examples of what it looks like and what to do.
Look to social media to see if interest is waning on her part. When something major happens in a person’s life, they usually like to share with their significant other before anyone else. If the woman you are seeing now updates her social media profile with big events in her life before sharing with you, she’s losing interest.
Another way social media can be of help in determining her level of interest is her response time on the site. Send her a text or message through one of these sites and see how she reacts. If she likes posts from friends, puts up a new status, or engages with others on one of these sites before responding to the text or message, it’s time to move on. She has lost interest and simply hasn’t shared this information with you.
Why she may be pulling away
If the person you’re dating is pulling away it might be a reaction to your behavior. She could be feeling overwhelmed or pressured, and this pushes her away. Boredom dooms many relationships, and confusion on her part harms many interactions. A man needs to be open, honest, and direct with his significant other or he risks losing her. Women feel overwhelmed through texts like below, when the questions are just about getting her to spend time with you.
Additionally, women want to feel heard. Men need to actively listen to their partner and respond accordingly. Try to understand the woman and what she is attempting to share. Negativity affects many relationships as well. Never judge the woman or make her feel offended. Doing so signals a quick end to the relationship, especially when negativity overshadows the positive aspects of the relationship. Determine why the woman is pulling away and how best to rectify the situation. A failure to do so means you will be on the market again in very little time.
When dealing with the opposite sex, take into account gender differences and patterns of behavior. What every person needs to look for in a relationship is a deviation from the normal. Men and women are entitled to bad days, as everyone has them. It’s when the bad days come frequently and the good days get farther and farther apart that there is cause for concern.
Examine the relationship and see if the above mentioned signs are present. If they are, try to determine why she is pulling away and how to resolve the problems. Otherwise, be prepared to move on and find someone new, as that is exactly what she is doing.