I’m spilling the secret, I’m going to tell you the top 3 best places to meet women in-person! And yes, even if 2020 during a pandemic. And, no, I’m not listing bars, clubs, or lounges as one of the places to meet ladies. Correction, if that is where you’re comfortable, great! If you love dancing, drinking, and you’re an extrovert then it’s a fantastic place to go to meet girls. But if you’ve been following me, then that’s not your usual kind of environment. I’m here to tell you the top 3 best public places you can go to meet women, even on your normal daily routine, and without going too much out of your way.
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Cold approach vs warm approach
In this article, we are focusing on places to meet ladies coldly. A cold approach is when you meet a woman and start a conversation with a complete stranger in a public public. You both have come to the same location with your own agenda, but not with the intent to meet someone. Just because that isn’t the intent, doesn’t mean you can’t meet someone. When you approach her, it’s a cold approach. For example, plenty of people work without the intent to meeting their partner, but there are many couples who have met at the work place.
A warm approach is when you’re both going to an event that has the intent to meet people. If you’re going to a singles event, a meet-up event, or networking event, people are there to actually meet new people. So, the approach is more straightforward. That’s where it is okay to say “Hi, I’m _____” as a conversation starter, because it’s almost expected.
Do women want to be approached in public?
This list are public places that you can choose to go at anytime. Maybe you’ll see a woman interest there, maybe meet a girl, maybe not! But, it’s very possible to start a conversation coldly. So, the first thing I want to say before I get into the list is I want for you to please make sure if you have a negative mindset on this, to reduce it. If you think women don’t want to be approached and have thoughts like
They are not going to talk to me, women don’t want men talking to them
I’m going to correct you there 🙂 women don’t want to be approached by creepy people because we don’t want to feel unsafe and we don’t want to feel like we’re potentially in danger, rightfully so. Making sure you’re not a creep is all about how you start a conversation. Quality, friendly, nice ladies are always willing to strike up a conversation.
If you’re friendly, respectful, and engaging — you’ll be fine. It’s always a green light to approach a woman unless it’s very clear she’s preoccupied (headphones in their ear, rushing, etc) I will be honest — in this modern World of dating, women fantasize being able to meet a guy at a coffee shop. Don’t already think this is impossible because a lot of my clients have met ladies offline and I don’t mean just at bars or events, it’s these three places.
Best places to meet women
One of the top 3 best places to meet women is any kind of class! Work out, dancing, cooking, anything that involves a group of people doing the same activity, going through the sam journey.
I’d normally recommend workout classes the most. You have more to opportunity to start conversations at work out classes because you share the same, struggle (work outs are tough!), determination, and achievement. There is also more of a unity with work out classes, they encourage you to support the person next to you.
You can do paid or free classes. Go on Facebook or Google, looking in your city with keywords like free outdoor yoga classes, you’ll find options! They have free outdoor classes everywhere. If you’re thinking,
But, it’s all women in yoga classes….and I’m not flexible at all
That is the point! You stand out and sure, it’s not too fun if you feel embarrassed, but women find it endearing to see a man really try and push through the discomfort. They are more willing to support you! This also provides more of an opportunity to strike up a small chat with them. If they see you struggle, you can own it with the statement of
Wow, is it always this hard? This is my first time….
Once again, you both share an experience and that beats out all environments for the best place to meet ladies.
If you want to try out different studios and you’re willing to pay, yet you don’t want to commit to one membership, try the app ClassPass.
This app allows you to receive credit to utilize at different studios. This will allow you try out different gyms, see if it’s your crowd, and try out a new work out. You can try boxing, rock climbing, pilates, anything! Make sure to pick studios in areas you know the ladies you want are in.
Stores are really great because you can ask for women’s thoughts and recommendation on a product, something you’re thinking about buying, and that’s always a really great conversation starter. On the plus side, people shop by themselves. They don’t need to go with friends or family members and that is a key because you don’t want to approach ladies that are around their friends because that’s a too much pressure. There’s too many people to account for so that’s why stores are really really great.
And I mean like grocery stores book stores stores at the malls when they’re shopping for anything, right? And it was kind of stores right
3. Public outdoor spaces
A great place to meet ladies is a location where people gather. This could be parks, beaches, the middle of a mall, plaza people are hanging out at, just observing. Those are really great because, once again, people can be by themselves at these location, not always, but they are when they take a stroll or write in their journal.
There’s, also, so much to comment on because you share the common environment. You can comment on how packed it is (or how it’s not so packed), on the dog that she has, so much more to work off of because there’s so much to observe. Check out my client’s text from the multiple women he met at a mall:
How you know it’s a great place to meet ladies
There you have it! Those are the top 3 best places to meet women and do they work? Yes. These are places my clients have said that they have they have met their ladies (as seen in the screenshots shown above) and all it really takes is about how you start the conversation once again. The key to the right place to meet women are:
- Places that people normally can go to by themselves so they can genuinely and organically have a conversation one-on-one with you instead of you having to worry about someone else with them
- Environments where it’s easy to comment on what’s around you (e.g., for a store, you can comment on a product or what you’re trying to buy)
- Any public space where people will gather, you have the people around you to observe, the actual space, and it gives you opportunity to potentially meet more ladies. or the actual space.
Now that you know the top 3 places, I challenge you to choose some places you can visit to try to meet ladies and make sure read/watch “how to start a conversation”. Make a schedule for yourself and get out there — you will only know and you can only learn if you try!
Even if it doesn’t work, it will help you grow because as long as you try, that’s how you’ll know if it works for you or not. It’ll also help to figure out if your ladies are out there.