You have someone you’re interested in, you get excited and start chatting with them. The conversation is great, the responses get you excited for continuous responses. But, you notice one (pretty big?) concerning thing….She takes forever, days, hours, to respond
So you wonder
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What does this mean?
Why does she take forever to respond?
Should you let go? Is she not interested? If she slowly ghosting?
Watch my Youtube video below to answer that
Messaging is an extremely important part of dating – it allows you two to get to know each other, build the connection, keep the momentum, draw curiosity, and keeps a relationship strong throughout time.
When someone has a delayed response time, you worry if she is slowly pulling away from you.
What a slow message response time mean:
I’m here to tell you that delayed response time does not always mean she’s not interested. (psst, small tip, being compassion by having patience is a quality that attracts women )
Because, guess what? She responded.
Quite honestly, a delayed response could mean two things:
- She is busy and she really didn’t have time to respond (this is highly likely if you send a lot of questions or send long messages)
- And yes, even during the time of the COVID-19 lockdown, people can still be busy. So don’t assume she’s not.
- She doesn’t feel enough of a strong connection yet to feel extremely excited to answer you right away, but she’s still interested to see if something will spark
If a woman is not interested, she will simply not respond.
There’s no point for a lady who isn’t interested to wait days and hours to respond if she’s not interested.
There are two ways women who make it known they’re not interested.
The action none of us like, ghosting.
- Just like a ghost, she just vanishes and disappears out of nowhere. This will most likely happen if you haven’t messaged for too long because she feels there’s no attachment there to owe you an explanation.
She will tell you she’s not interested.
- This is a preferred method because at least you get your answer. But, unfortunately, not all women want to have this confrontation because she is afraid of how you’ll react to it.
Going back to delayed responses and what you can do. Recognize if she apologizes for the delayed response, she is acknowledging her fault and has still decided to talk to you!
Remember to always see everything for what it is, think about how it can work instead of thinking what can go wrong 🙂
In that mindset, if she still responds, but you’re still concerned about her response time, then the way to get the answer to your question of “what does she take forever to respond?”
is by…asking her.
It’s okay to be honest about what you’re observing, as long as you come from a place of trying to understand her, women appreciate that. Watch the youtube video for an example of how you could word it.
Now, what can you do in the moment as you await a response?
You’re waiting for a response for days and you’re wondering if she has let go of talking to you…
My suggestion is to ask yourself….
What do I have control over?
The answer to that….you have control over yourself.
If you want to talk to her, then check-in with her.
It’s not annoying or pushy (you’ve waited 2-3 days, that’s plenty of time)
If she responds, great! Keep it going
If she doesn’t? Then, that is when you should let it go.
It is very possible for women to take days to respond, every women is different on her reason why. Make sure you don’t start assuming her story because assuming never leads to any good 🙂
You can always get your answer by asking her directly “I notice it’s hard for you to respond haha What have you been up to?”
Don’t worry about her reacting negatively, because as long as you feel like you are doing your best, you asked in the most respectful way, then how she perceives it is not your fault.
Once again, if she is very slow in response, one of the reasons may just be that she is not that connected and excited about your conversation.
If you want to find out about how to keep the conversation so you can keep her excited, and better yet — get a date out of it, the I suggest to check out the video and PDF on online messaging – from initial message to offline date.
Don’t think the worse of a situation! Remember, there is something you can always do.
I got your back.