In this topic, I am going to talk about “what attracts women”, Is there a standard for what ladies may find appealing to you? Know that when it comes to dating, you want to attract dates. Many times, you get out there and try, then things do not work out. And when things do not work out, the main reason is because (sorry, I am about to sound harsh, and please do not take this personally). She can not find anything that draws her to you, she is not attracted to you, she did not find you interesting. And this is why one of the most popular questions I receive is “what attracts women?”, “How do I attract ladies?” or “Is there anything I can do to be more attractive in the eyes of the girls?”
“Did I say something wrong?”
“What does she even want to hear?”
“What can attract women to me?”
“Is there no girl out there for me?”
That’s what they feared…
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Sound like a familiar thought?
It is understandably a thought because you want to make a good impression. You want to make her feel comfortable, and you want her to want to get to know you more, curios and intrigue about you so you can continue the date
I get asked these questions all the time:
does a woman has high standards?
what attracts women?
what are the attractive traits and behaviors that make men more appealing to women?
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And yes, I can get really complicated with this answer.
But, I’m not that kind of person — I get straight to the point and dating is complicated enough. Let’s make it simple.
Watch this video to find out about the 3 most attractive traits to women:
These are traits that EVERY single people can develop and grow in
These are not traits or behaviors where you either have it or do not.
If you really want to draw interest and start attracting ladies, you CAN gain these traits if you do not have them already.
Now, comes the question –
how do you express those traits?
What is it that women want to her?
First, there is no cheesy “one line” or “pick up line” you feed her.
I do not believe in cheesy and one-liners or using liners that are spit out like robots in hopes one will work. Most likely your genuine self would not like it either.
I aim to help my clients gain relationships that will benefit them in the long run
So that means having a helpful structure that will support you and add to your chances, without changing who you are.
It is no secret that women are often attracted to men who are confident and authentic. Who know themselves, also, women perceived men as more attractive–who are mindful-present, attentive, and nonjudgmental.
Sure enough, the man is rated significantly more attractive to women when he has a strong sense of security, clarity, and trust in themselves.
Now that we got that out of the way, so what is it that women want to hear?
Women are indeed emotional creatures (surprised? I bet not haha)
We (I am saying we because if you forgot — I am a woman haha) feel feelings and that is how we remember moments, people, and places.
If you talk to a woman about something that stands out to her, it usually involves “it made me feel….”
In order to allow her to feel, it is important to talk about two things:
1. Your journey:
- Tell her your story, instead of talking about what you like.
- Do not just state what, state how
- Express the rollercoaster of your life so far
2. Your attractive traits:
- Talking about the exact traits that are strengths
- The parts of you that make you stand out
- Describing how successful people inspire you to become the best version of you
- Describing what all of those traits mean to you and what you value
- Let her see your traits so she can even be drawn to you.
Too many times, people talk about the facts, the details, instead of the underlying point that is the most important….you.
What makes those interests, those facts, those accomplishments, your motivations, and ambitions what about them speak to who you are?
Being able to confidently and comfortably talk about yourself in those forms is what makes women feel
That is what draws feelings
Because as you are confident and comfortable telling your story, she sees your own thoughts and feelings — she will connect with you.
As you describe your attractive traits, she not only sees your confidence, but she sees your reasons why this all makes you stand out. She will definitely understand you.
She will feel curious, intrigued, wanting to know more,
Because she will feel like she truly knows you
She will feel impressed, warm, inspired, and….understands you.
What attracts women are all those emotions and being comfortable showing all those emotions would also give tell her that you are excited about the date.
Attraction is a big topic so I have this for you to get a deeper dive into the foundation.
Having attractive traits is a substantial component that could serve as a gatekeeper towards your perfect match. Find out in the button below YOUR attractive traits, and how to utilize them to have easy conversations and to get a date.
Learn the foundation here
I literally, as you can see in the photo below, layout on paper a structure to logically find your attractive traits.
Then, from there, it is all about figuring out how to make sense of the structure to utilize it in a conversation.
This would all lead to having you build a connection with a lady
And, building a connection, is where attraction begins and lasts.
Nothing attracts more to a woman than a man with high self-esteem, who has a strong sense of security and clarity. In the link below, I am going to show you how to gain confidence and be significantly more attractive to women without changing who you are. Find out here.