When it comes to dating, you want to attract dates. Many times, you get out there, try, and things don’t work out. And when things don’t work out, the main reason is because (sorry, I’m about to sound harsh), she’s not attracted to you. And this is why one of the most popular questions I receive is “what attract women?” or “How do I attract ladies?”
“Did I say something wrong?”
“What does she even want to hear?”
“What can attract women to me?”
Sound like a familiar thought?
It’s understandably a thought because you want to make a good impression, you want to make her feel comfortable, and you want her to want to get to know you more so you can continue the date
I get asked this question all the time:
what attracts women?
And yes, I can get really complicated with this answer.
But, I’m not that kind of person — I get straight to the point and dating is complicated enough, let’s make it simple.
Watch this video to find out about the 3 most attractive traits to women:
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These are traits that EVERY single people can develop and grow in
These aren’t traits where you either have it or don’t
If you really want to draw interest, start attracting ladies, you CAN gain these traits if you don’t have it already.
Now, comes the question –
how do you express those traits?
What is it that women want to her?
First, there’s no “one line” or “pick up line” you feed her
I don’t believe in using liners that are spit out like robots, most likely your genuine self wouldn’t like it.
I aim to help my clients gain relationships that will benefit them in the long run
So that means having a helpful structure that will support you and add to your chances, without changing who you are
Now that we got that out of the way, so what is it that women want to hear?
Women are emotional creatures (surprised? I bet not haha)
We (I’m saying we because if you forgot — I’m a woman haha) feel feelings and that’s how we remember moments, people, and places.
If you talk to a woman about something that stands out to her, it usually involves “it made me feel….”
In order to allow her to feel, it’s important to talk about two things:
1. Your journey:
- Instead of talking about what you like, tell your story
- Don’t just state what, state how
- Express the rollercoaster of your life so far
2. You attractive traits:
- Talking about the exact traits that are strengths
- The parts of you that make you stand out
- Describing what all of those traits mean to you and what you value
- Let her see your traits so she can even be drawn to you
Too many times, people talk about the facts, the details, instead of the underlying point that is the most important….you.
What makes those interests, those facts, those activities, those accomplishments, what about them speak to who you are?
Being able to talk about yourself in those forms are what makes women feel
That is what draws feelings
Because as you are confidently telling your story, she sees your own thoughts and feelings — she’ll connect with you.
As you describe your attractive traits, she not only sees your confidence, but she sees your reasons why this all makes you stand out. She’ll understand you.
She’ll feel curious, intrigued, wanting to know more,
Because she’ll feel like she truly knows you
She’ll feel impressed, warm, inspired, and….understands you.
Attraction is a big topic so I have this for you to get a deeper dive into the foundation.
Learn the foundation of attraction, the 3 things that attract women, the step-by-step (literally, I have you filling out a table) on how to find YOUR attractive traits, and how to utilize it to have easy conversations.
I literally, as you can see in the photo below, lay out on paper a structure to logically find your attractive traits.
Then, from there, it’s about figuring out how to make sense of the structure to utilize it in a conversation
This would all lead to having you build a connection with a lady
And, building a connection, is where attraction begins and lasts.
Figure out how to do all of that in this How to Attract video here.