When it comes to dating, you want to attract dates. Many times, you get out there and try, then things do not work out. And when things don’t work out, the main reason is because (sorry, I’m about to sound harsh), she didn’t find anything that draw her to you, she’s not attracted to you. And this is why one of the most popular questions I receive is “what attracts women?”, “How do I attract ladies?” or “Is there anything I can do to be more attractive in the eyes of the girls?”
“Did I say something wrong?”
“What does she even want to hear?”
“What can attract women to me?”
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Sound like a familiar thought?
It’s understandably a thought because you want to make a good impression, you want to make her feel comfortable, and you want her to want to get to know you more, curios and intrigue about you so you can continue the date
I get asked this question all the time:
what attracts women?
And yes, I can get really complicated with this answer.
But, I’m not that kind of person — I get straight to the point and dating is complicated enough, let’s make it simple.
Watch this video to find out about the 3 most attractive traits to women:
These are traits that EVERY single people can develop and grow in
These are not traits where you either have it or do not.
If you really want to draw interest, start attracting ladies, you CAN gain these traits if you do not have it already.
Now, comes the question –
how do you express those traits?
What is it that women want to her?
First, there is no “one line” or “pick up line” you feed her
I do not believe in cheesy one-liners or using liners that are spit out like robots in hopes one will work, most likely your genuine self would not like it.
I aim to help my clients gain relationships that will benefit them in the long run
So that means having a helpful structure that will support you and add to your chances, without changing who you are
What attracts women is actually being authentic, and real because women are more drawn to a man who knows who is he, who is confident enough.
Now that we got that out of the way, so what is it that women want to hear?
Women are emotional creatures (surprised? I bet not haha)
We (I am saying we because if you forgot — I am a woman haha) feel feelings and that is how we remember moments, people, and places.
If you talk to a woman about something that stands out to her, it usually involves “it made me feel….”
In order to allow her to feel, it’s important to talk about two things:
1. Your journey:
- Instead of talking about what you like, tell your story
- Don’t just state what, state how
- Express the rollercoaster of your life so far
2. Your attractive traits:
- Talking about the exact traits that are strengths
- The parts of you that make you stand out
- What you have gone through to achieve your goals
- Talking about successful people and how they inspire you
- Describing what all of those traits mean to you and what you value
- Let her see your traits so she can even be drawn to you
Too many times, people talk about the facts, the details, instead of the underlying point that is the most important….you.
What makes those interests, those facts, those activities, those accomplishments, what about them speak to who you are?
Being able to confidently talk about yourself in those forms is what makes women feel
That is what draws feelings
Because as you are confidently telling your story, she sees your own thoughts and feelings — she’ll connect with you.
As you describe your attractive traits, she not only sees your confidence, but she sees your reasons why this all makes you stand out. She will understand you.
She will feel curious, intrigued, wanting to know more,
Because she’ll feel like she truly knows you
She’ll feel impressed, warm, inspired, and….understands you.
What attracts women are all those emotions
Attraction is a big topic so I have this for you to get a deeper dive into the foundation.
Having attractive traits is a substantial component that could serve as a gatekeeper towards your perfect match. Find out in the button below YOUR attractive traits, and how to utilize them to have easy conversations.
Learn the foundation here
I literally, as you can see in the photo below, layout on paper a structure to logically find your attractive traits.
Then, from there, it’s about figuring out how to make sense of the structure to utilize it in a conversation
This would all lead to having you build a connection with a lady
And, building a connection, is where attraction begins and lasts.
Figure out how to do all of that in this How to Attract video here.