I’m answering the question, do girls like introverts? I’m going to make this very short and simple for you by saying, yes. Most of you guys who are asking this question are looking at introversion as a negative trait when it’s not. There’s a lot of confusion about being introverted and shy, which is not the same thing. I talk about shyness in another video. You can click on that link above to learn about how to date when you’re a shy guy, but once again, it is a completely different thing.
Shyness is more of a behavior that stems from feelings, but introversion is part of your personality. It’s part of who you are. What introversion means is that you enjoy recharging alone or with people that are very close to you. You do not thrive in club-like situations with a lot of people around. If anything, that drains your energy. It’s just your personality. It’s not even about you not being social, because once again, that is not the same thing. Once again, introversion, extroversion, all that’s about is how you recharge, and how you gain energy. That is it.
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Find Out If You are an Introvert or an Extrovert
Then, once you know if you’re introverted or extroverted, then it’s just about finding the right partner that is compatible with you. It doesn’t mean that because you’re introverted, you should only date people who are introverted. It’s more about how you want your life to be shaped and what kind of relationship you want to have. Because there are plenty of introverts who do want someone who’s a little bit more extroverted, so it challenges them to go out a little more and that’s okay. At the end of the day is just being aware of who you are and what is compatible with you.
It’s a Scale
What I want to also say is to remember that introversion-extroversion is a scale. It’s not black and white. Not a blank statement of you’re introverted, extroverted, that is it. It’s a scale. If you ever actually took the Myers-Briggs or if you want to take it for free, you can go to 16personalities.com. It’s not exact but it’s pretty close. When you get your results, you see that it’s on the percentage level of which side you’re on. For example, for me, I have always been introverted, but I’ve always been really close to extraversion. I’m kind of in the middle. I’ve always said I’m an ambivert, but I definitely feel these in recent years, I’ve become more of an introvert. I need to be alone to recharge. So, once again, there’s a scale to it. It’s not a black and white concept.
Being Introvert is Not a Bad Thing
Once you’re aware of where you are, once again, it’s not a bad thing. It’s not a negative trait. Own it if you’re an introvert, and at the end of the day, it’s just about everything else. It’s about how you are confident yourself, what your attractive traits are, how you flirt, all those other things. That’s really what propels dating. It’s not introversion that hinders you or disables you from doing certain things. Once again, usually, that’s more shyness. That one really stops you from doing certain actions you want to do. So, make sure you do not confuse the two.
That’s it. Introversion is not a bad thing. Do girls like introverts? Of course. There are so many girls who love introverts. I, included because my fiancé is an introvert. I’m pretty sure the way you’re thinking of it is a negative concept, and I don’t want you to think that way. Be careful of generalizing and assuming all introverts and their experiences are the same. I’m sure if you truly think about it, you KNOW there are many introverts in relationships and that’s not what stops them.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this week’s topic. I hope you own it that you’re an introvert, and you get out there, and learn everything else you need to learn to go date but don’t make that an excuse. Thank you so much and good luck.
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