Does money attract women? What money really says…

I talked about the best conversation topics for a first date previously and one of the topics is career. But, what if you’re not sure if you want to talk about your career? You start wondering if money attracts women,  what career or income amount gets you dates, and how to talk about it, does having an open dialogue about money is crucial? So, let’s answer…DOES money attract women? What is it about money that does attract them? 

I hear these common statements and beliefs all the time

“All women want is money” 

“Money is the biggest attractive trait” 

“Women see your worth if you have money”

“If I have money, I can attract women”

“Women will dump you after they get what they need”

I went over the most attractive traits to women before, but let’s get real…

Will money guarantee any form of sustainable attraction? Yes.

Is that all true for all women? No.  

Some? Yes. There are ladies out there who only value a man for their money, those who can’t or have no plans to support themselves. Those who don’t want to work and want someone else to take care of them.

That’s why there is such a term as sugar babies, gold diggers, or scammers. 

Is that most or all women? No. Can amazing quality ladies want money? Yes.

It’s possible quality ladies have gifts as their love language. And that is okay.

Those ladies feel loved, cared about, and treated well when they receive gifts and appreciate them even though how much it costs. Because giving gifts means you “speak” your love through presents.

So, if you get into a relationship with a woman with that love language, then being able to purchase consistent gifts is important.

Remember though, there are 4 other love languages. There are many women that have the others. You have the choice in choosing who you pick and who you reject.

What do quality women really care about? What does money actually say?

As I briefly noted in my Tedx talk, women want to feel safe and secure. 

That’s why sometimes women associate a man’s height with safety because it’s a sense of protection. Now, is it correct? No. Because there are so many ways someone can make you feel safe and protected that isn’t height. 

Can that be money? Yes. 

How about your dedicated, ambitious, spirit? Yes. 

What if you show your 120% confidence in yourself? yes.

So, it’s not actually only about your career and money. Think about what it means.  

Stability and Security

It’s about knowing you live a stable and secure life that allows her and your relationship to take a smooth course of getting to know each other without penny-pinching. Know that a quality woman is more interested in a man’s earning capacity than the size of his wallet and in those who have a strong ambition, sense of purpose, and vision, and financial stability is the second most important characteristic they are looking for in a man, on the other hand, men place physical attraction and honesty before financial stability.

So, if you have a hard time paying off bills, rarely can afford leisure activities, and can’t always eat…..then, I would say work on your financial stability before getting into a relationship. It’s about living a stable life for yourself more than it is about being “rich”. 

Also, what many forget is that it’s about having a career you feel fulfilled every day with. 

We all spend most of our time and our days at work. So imagine who you are outside of work when those long hours may be challenging but satisfying. You walk out feeling accomplished, excited, or simply…fulfilled. 

What you do is more about how it shapes you, not about the materials it can give you outside (unless that is what gives you satisfaction)

So, it’s important to reflect on your current career status and if you’re stable….

Then, ask yourself, are you happy? are you contented with how much money you are earning?

Your career affects your self-confidence

If you’re not happy even though you are earning much, then that’s an area you also want to add to your dating life to improve.

You may not notice how much your career affects your attitude, behavior, and energy towards dating, but please hear me when I say…it really does.

You always want to be your best self when dating so you can attract the best for your best self. 

If you feel embarrassed by the career or how much money you make, you can radiate that feeling of embarrassment and that’s what she sees and feels. There’s a difference between having a job that pays 50k and you love it vs. feeling like you are incompetent.

It’s not about the money or the amount of money you can earn. It’s about how you show up, how you’re proud and confident about yourself, for the career that you have, your ability to acquire a steady supply of income, and accepting who you are.

Now, what if you have a job that’s a bit unconventional (that can spark some concern or judgment from people), in between jobs, or you have personal financial plans she may not understand? 

This is more about how you talk about your career, it’s about how you explain it and help her understand you while easing her worries. 

Lastly, I will end by saying talking money while dating can be hard but it is absolutely important and it is a big part of deal breakers. Also, know that, there is nothing attractive about scrounging to make the essentials work.

To find out how to navigate that conversation, I go through samples (like specific jobs like working for Lyft/Uber, a poker player, in-between jobs…) of how to talk about it in the conversation formula product.