Scott: I got three dates in a weekend
Is getting multiple dates in a week is possible? Isn’t it cool to get that? Well…it’s definitely a YES! For sure, Scott’s story will excite you and give you a heads up of how working one-on-one with me made that happen. He was so excited to share how he was able to get 3 dates in a weekend. He says that all his dating life even though he could get a date once in a blue moon, this is the first time that has ever happened to him. And seeing the results in an instant made him more excited to continue his dating journey. Also, he says that one of the biggest blocks that he was able to overcome when we started the program is his confidence.
Scott was so appreciative, he appreciates how I was able to help him shifted his mind into a healthy mindset. How enlightening it was for him to learn how to bounce back from being rejected and not be discouraged to continue his dating journey. Because there is someone out there and the goal is just to find out who that is. He also mentioned that identifying his attractive traits, going out of his comfort zone, how to project himself, and what to look for on a date are some of the few things that he was able to learn from our one-on-one coaching session, and now Scott is currently talking with a quality girl.
You might be wondering, how he was able to learn about me? Well, I am so thrilled to share with you the revised transcription of Scott’s story and how he was able to find me, and what made him interested to work with me. His inspiring story will surely make you decide to step up your dating game and maybe seek the advice of a dating coach.
The following topics include
- Where he meets me
- Where he grew the most
- What are his attractive traits
- His dating goal
- Where is he right now
- His dating status
- His memorable experience
- Benefits of a dating coach
- What made him successful
- What he figured out when we first talk
Transcribed for accuracy
Where he was able to meet me
Scott: Hi, my name is Scott. I’m 29. I first met Ruby at a meetup. I was dating, but I wasn’t seeing any results, and I kept on getting the message that, “I had fun hanging out with you, but I just don’t really feel the connection.” Once I remember receiving a text, and I saw Ruby at a meetup, so I just started talking with her and introduced myself. From there, I started working with Ruby.
Ruby: Yay. Where are you now?
Scott: Now, I currently talking with a girl. She’s really awesome. We’ll see where it goes, but for now, it’s been pretty good.
Ruby: What do you think about the dating experience now? Is it a bit easier for you?
Scott: I definitely see that it’s fun. Dating is fun because when I first started dating, I had a negative view about it because I just felt like just going in circles and not seeing the results. After my coaching sessions with Ruby, I definitely feel more confident. I guess if I know what to say in certain situations. Overall, I feel pretty good about dating.
The biggest obstacle he was able to overcome
Ruby: Yeah, and just having that knowledge. Speaking of coaching, what was the biggest obstacle you overcame? What kind of knowledge that you received and you’re like, “Oh, my gosh, this helps tremendously,” where do you think you grew the most?
Scott: Definitely my self-confidence. I guess with just not seeing any results with dating, I felt really down on myself, and definitely,
Ruby was there to help with that, and help with my confidence, and I’m really appreciative of Ruby. Helping me out in certain situations, and definitely.
I guess, having a different mindset too. I think having a healthy mindset is super important with dating because you are going to experience rejection. Of course, no one wants to get rejected, but if you have a healthy mindset– I remember you telling me to bounce back, from being rejected, because there’s always someone out there, and the goal is to find just that one person.
Ruby: It just takes that one.
Scott: For sure. Yeah.
Ruby: With that, I liked that you talked about mindset and confidence because there’s the only thing where the first things we talked about, and it really is a foundation to how you even approach dating. How did my guidance specifically, whether that be the texting support, and accountability, or maybe the steps and the logical steps it took to get there, what do you think was it about my specific guidance that really helped you get to that level?
Learning his attractive traits
Scott: I think for one, it was, say, coming up with, you call it attractive traits, where he’s e instead of saying, you enjoy going out to eat or restaurants, it’s more like, you’re curious or you’re trying to step out of your comfort zone, as an attractive trait. I guess just going through the process, I was able to learn what my attractive traits are. Know what I’m looking for on a date, which is really important. I want to say that when I first started dating, my goal was to have them like me. It’s like, “Did I say the right things to have them like me?” “How did I present myself?” But that’s really just the wrong approach to dating. Dating is more about just connecting. That’s my goal on every single date, which is to connect.
Scott: If I feel that I did my job in connecting, I feel really good about it, regardless of the results.
His dating goal
Ruby: Oh, there we go. I love that. It’s about connecting, no matter what happens, no matter if you don’t feel the chemistry because that’s happened. I think some of the days you didn’t feel that chemistry, or maybe she didn’t, but that’s okay. Do you think that connection and that kind of goal made dating fun for you? Is that what made it more fun?
Scott: Yeah, instead of having a date where it’s like, “Oh, I hope she likes me. I hope the girl likes me,” if I go into it, “I’m just going to connect with her, and just see where it goes. If she likes me for my attractive traits, and we connect, and there’s chemistry, and that’s really great. If not, then that’s fine, too.”
Ruby: Tell the viewers a little bit more in-depth about how it feels to be where you’re at now, including being able to talk about yourself, and how that comes easy to you, and with the girls that you’re dating. A lot of people want to be where you are. Tell a little bit more about how overall you’re feeling in general.
Where is he right now
Scott: It feels pretty good to be where I’m at in the sense that I feel really confident with dating. I approach it with the mindset that as long as I talk about myself and present the attractive traits, then I did my job. I want someone to like me for who I am and not for someone that I’m not. Definitely, I feel I have more self-confidence, having a healthy mindset, and actually being patient too.
Sometimes, you just have to be patient, sometimes it’s not going to click right away. I guess just don’t stress about certain situations. You can’t control certain situations, but if you feel like you did the best that you could, or you talked about yourself– because there was one situation where I guess, I didn’t talk about myself, the date or the girl didn’t really know much about me. I did feel down about it because I felt that we connected but
having Ruby as my coach helped me to see where I could improve. Definitely going forward, I always feel like if I connect and if I talk about myself, I feel good.
Ruby: Tell them a little bit more about where you are with that one girl that you’re seeing. Being in this and feeling like, “Wow, you’re actually, really connecting with somebody.”
Scott: It feels really good in the sense that we’ve been going on dates.
Ruby: Text each other.
Scott: We’re texting each other every day. Having common interests, having someone that cares, which really goes a long way. I guess I’m really glad that at least I got to share with Ruby and with you folks about where I’m at in my dating. Hopefully, it works out.
Ruby: This is a fun question. I just thought of this, but what was that moment during our coaching where you were like, “This is awesome.” Do you have a moment like, “Oh, my gosh, this is happening?”
His memorable experience
Scott: Definitely, I had three dates in one weekend. That was probably one of the more memorable experiences that I had with Ruby. I remember texting her and saying, “I have three dates this weekend.” It was a really cool experience.
Ruby: One of those moments, you’re like, “Is this really happening right now?”
Ruby: Switching gears. This is a tough process, because a lot of people may think that having a dating coach and doing this may be a little shameful, and you might be really vulnerable. Basically, it’s just a vulnerable topic. What would you either say to the viewers who are feeling like, “Is it weird to get a dating coach?” What would you say to them?
Biggest benefits of having a dating coach
Scott: I would say that it’s definitely worthwhile to experience. If you’re on the fence, I would highly recommend having Ruby as your dating coach. She’s someone that really supports you. I think that’s probably one of the biggest benefits of having Ruby as your coach is that she wants the best for you. Just knowing that you have someone on your side that will help you out when you have questions. If you run into any, say conflicts with your dates, you always can turn to Ruby. I’m really thankful and appreciative that I got to have Ruby as my dating coach. I would highly recommend, if you’re on the fence about it, you should.
Ruby: Thanks. What was your thought process in “I’m going to do this,” and it was reasonable, like, the investment that you made, was reasonable for you to take that step?
Scott: I guess, I was at a certain point in my life, where I was really serious about wanting to date, and find that special someone, but I wasn’t seeing the results. It feels like going in a circle every time I asked my family and friends and searching on the internet. I really was serious about dating.
I really felt comfortable with Ruby, being vulnerable, and sharing about my own dating experience and decided just to go with it. Trusting the process and going for various topics. In the end, it paid off.
What made him successful
Ruby: Last but not least, it paid off because you had a lot of qualities that made it successful. If people were about to take me on as a coach, what do you think of the qualities they need? Like you’re saying trust the process, so that’s one, but what other qualities that you think they need, in order to make this successful for them and get to your spot?
Scott: I guess just being open to learning. Also, I guess having a healthy mindset and self-confidence. I would say probably self-confidence, a healthy mindset, and being patient are probably the top three.
Ruby: Patience, that’s the key.
Scott: Yeah, definitely, Ruby helped me with my self-confidence. She told me towards the end of our 3-month session that she really saw the difference in me about my self-confidence. I really felt it too, in the sense that, I look forward to going on dates. I look forward to connecting with different people and just seeing where it goes. I’m okay if it doesn’t work out. I’ve definitely had, say as we went on a date, I thought it went really well, but I never heard from her again. But I wasn’t down on myself, because I felt good that I did my job in the sense that I connected and I shared my attractive traits with her, but it’s just that for whatever reason, she just didn’t really feel the same. At this point, I’m cool with it. Before, I would have probably been really down.
Ruby: Yeah, that’s awesome. Love that you said that, because I’ll wrap this up by saying it’s really easy to get down on dating, it’s really easy to not look forward to it, open up the apps, and be like, “Oh, I don’t want to–” Another day, it’s going to probably just not be that great, and just that shift and I think that is confidence in mindset, just kind of that shift and looking at dating like, it actually can be fun. It really can be.
What he figured out when we first talk
Ruby: I would just like to say he’s great, because I tell him this all the time, that confidence, that kind of transformation is amazing to see because we talked about this before where I think when I first saw you at the meetup, it was really hard for you to talk about yourself. There’s plenty of things to talk about, maybe a career. Other than that, what else would you say? Now, it’s so easy for him, he has it all, figured out and memorized– I don’t even know memorized, but it’s just so much easier.
It’s not like you had to be anyone else, you’re still very much you. A lot of people think like, “Oh, you’re just pretending to be someone that you’re not,” or some coaches obviously have like liners for you and scripts. He’s more him than I’ve ever seen. That’s all it really takes. All right, thank you so much, you guys, for listening. Thank you, Scott, for being here. Any last words to them?
Scott: I would say sign up for Ruby. You definitely will get an experienced coach and she definitely will be with you every step of the way.
Ruby: Yes, I will. Thank you so much, Scott. Thank you, guys, for watching, and I’ll see you soon.
Know that nothing is impossible, it’s all about mindset. Remember that our mind is like a magnet, we attract what we think, so if you want to get multiple dates like Scott but don’t know where to start I am happy to help!