I am going to talk about “how to confirm if someone is a scammer? ” What are the questions you can ask, what are some preventative things you can do? Because I did a video on the signs that someone is a scammer, but someone can start to show those signs but they’re actually not a scammer. Maybe there’s someone actually interested in that kind of investment, and they got so excited. So, how do you really know if someone’s a scammer? Well, there are three things you can look out for and test.
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Number one is redirection. So, when someone brings up their high interest in, let’s say, cryptocurrency– Once again, this could be any investment platform. I’m using crypto as one example, because that’s what I did with my last video, and this has become more popular across the board for people to do. So, with crypto, let’s say, she starts talking about how amazing it is, and how she loves it. And then, the sign that someone’s a scammer is when she tries to tell you that you should do it. Now, someone can still do that because they just care and they want to share the wealth or share the experience. It’s just like when someone said, “I love snowboarding, You should go! I’ll teach you how.” But obviously, you don’t think that of a scammer. They’re just trying to have an experience with you.
So, how do you make sure she’s not a scammer if she does that? Well, you redirect. You stay stern in what you believe then you redirect the conversation. If she says, you should do it, you can respond very straightforwardly and say, “I’m not interested in it right now.” That’s it. “I’m not that person,” or, “That’s not what’s right in front of me right now. I just have a lot of other things,” or, “I’m comfortable where I’m at. I’m good. So, how was your event this past Saturday?” You switch it out of that topic to see if she accepts your answer and then continue the conversation in another direction. If she does that, great.
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If for some reason, she brings it back to crypto again in another day and say how you should do it, why don’t you do it, it feels a little pressuring, right? Why does she care so much about where your money is going? That is your money. So, you already learn to be a little concerned. So, the last thing you would do if she does that a second time is saying,
“Look, you already brought this up once. I’m already concerned I have to do this again. But I’m telling you, that’s not something that I want to do right now. If this is something that you want me to do, I’m not interested in it. I’m interested in getting to know you and to date. So, if you don’t want to continue talking to me because of it, that’s fine. But I would appreciate it if this isn’t brought up again,”
See what she says. If she just says okay, and then never texts you again, you already know your answer. Sometimes, people are a little pushy and they may mention it a second time. But if you make your answer clear and known, then at that point, she’ll let it go and continue dating you. You can continue to date her, and see if you guys connect. Normally, women would respect your boundaries. So, that’s the first thing. So, redirection, being stern, redirect. Tell her, “No, thank you. I don’t want to,” and redirect the conversation.
Get the Date
The second thing that’s really important to do is get the date. If not an in-person date (because people get too busy), a video date. Scammers do not want to show their faces. They will call you but they will not show their face. So, really, really don’t consider any investment or putting your money into anything until you actually see her, meet her in person hopefully, because that’s when you can really see if she’s connecting with you. You can see if there is chemistry because that’s obviously important in any of this. True scammers in this case, especially in the crypto world like this, who are really extorting a lot of money from you never show face. They will always make an excuse. If anything, they will hook you still and breadcrumb you by saying you’ll go on a date maybe the next two weeks or so, but it’s vague. If you ask for a video date, they may get very defensive and say, “We’re not there yet. I’m not comfortable with you yet,” which quite honestly doesn’t make sense, right?
Let it go
If that’s the case, honestly from a dating perspective too, scammer or not, I would say, let that go. Because if a person is really interested in you, they’ll make it work. If they can’t actually see you, then they’ll still schedule it and they’ll tell you what’s going on, what events. But a FaceTime, a video call, it’s not that hard. If they can get on a phone call, they can get on a video call. So, if someone is really being defensive and not wanting to do that, let it go. That’s a really big sign she’s a scammer or a really big catfish. That’s one too, but either way, you wouldn’t want either one, right? So, make sure you get the video date and the in-person date. Obviously, and then, of course, when you guys meet, you actually realize she’s a cool person. Maybe she talks about best later down the road, but that’s like any relationship. It tends to happen. You share a lot of your interests together. But what matters is that you actually know her, see her, and usually, when you see her in person, you can see a little bit more of her energy and how she is.
Do Your Research
Last one, number three, is to make sure to do your research. Do your research. If you don’t know about the market, if you don’t know about real estate or some projects that she’s asking you to invest in, research how it actually works. Do your research. If you empower yourself to actually do it, you’ll realize you’ll find the answer. You’ll also realize that things aren’t really connecting, something is not making sense with what she’s saying. And then, that’s when you can challenge her. Take all the knowledge you gained, challenge her with questions, and ask her, “Wait, how legitimate is this? Where’s the company from in this? Why do you have two platforms to exchange crypto when the normal platforms have one?”
Ask challenging questions. I guarantee you, if she’s a scammer, she’s going to keep it vague, she’s going to get very defensive, gaslight you, blame it on you, say that you don’t trust her anymore, and quite honestly at that point, she answers that way, just block her and let it go. That’s a sign. They don’t like that. They don’t like it when they realize you’re getting smart. But sometimes, some people don’t need to do that. They already know someone’s a scammer, so they block them. But in those cases, it’s really interesting to see how they respond when they recognize you’re actually knowledgeable and they messed with the wrong person.
Remember what you can do
Well, that’s the tests and questions that you can do. I hope this doesn’t happen to you. Those scammers are out there and it’s unfortunate that they are, but I hope you know that with online dating, there’s mostly real people there. Mostly real people with good hearts who want a relationship. So, I hope that doesn’t jade you to know that. I’m someone who met my fiancée online, I’m not a scammer.
So, just remember and I hope this doesn’t prevent you from finding opportunities, finding dates, and knowing that you have the power and control to give away your money or to fall for these scammers. So, just know that you have the power, take on what you just learned, execute, test it, see if she’s a scammer, and make sure you don’t get into these situations.
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