Today, we’re differentiating between if she’s being friendly or flirty. I’m going to go over the top five signs that she is being flirty. That way, you can differentiate between the two, because if she’s not doing these signs, it’s most likely that she’s being friendly with you. Before we get into that, I want to say that this is a follow-up, from my “When she compliments you, does she like you?” video. Please watch that, because there are important steps on there that really coincide with this really, really well.
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Don’t draw up your own conclusions
Before we get into the signs, please remember to be careful of taking any of her words or actions and drawing up your own conclusions, and then letting yourself run with it. As I said in a previous post, it’s all about how you respond to it, how you make the moves, how you also flirt. It’s not just about taking in her signs and then keeping it there, and hoping she makes a move.
Most of the time, women do these signs because she wants you to see it, so that you can make that move yourself because, hey, a woman likes to still be chased. A woman still likes a man who leads. But sometimes, you want the signs, too. You don’t want to potentially ruin a relationship or a friendship or anything like that.
If you see these top five signs, she may be headed towards interest and you can do something about it.
1. Look for Unique Compliments
The first sign to figure out if she is being friendly or flirty is unique compliments. I don’t just say compliments, because anyone can compliment you and it doesn’t mean it’s in a romantic way. However, if she gives these type of compliments, there may be interest there, and you may have something to follow up on. A unique compliment is when she expresses directly of her intrigue with you. Literally saying, “I’m intrigued by you.” Or, “That’s very attractive of you.”
She expresses you stand out
Number two. If she says how you stand out above the crowd, especially above any other guy she’s ever dated. She puts you in the pool of romantic guys, not just guys in general and saying that you’re nice, but actually saying that you’re better than the guys I’ve even dated and I’ve seen. That’s really a great compliment.
Compliments your appearance
Number three to answering “is she being friendly or flirty?” is if she compliments your appearance. Women don’t really comment on appearance if she doesn’t like you. They don’t really do that to friends. When I say comment on appearance, that means, “Wow, your hair looks good today,” or, “Did I ever tell you I love the way you dress? I think this fits you really well,” or, “You have such a lean physique. It’s really nice.” “You have a really nice smile. You’re so handsome.” All those. They’re great compliments and normally women don’t make it if they’re just looking at you platonically. .
2. Participates in the conversation
You can tell she’s flirting & interested when she leads the conversation. This includes when she asks you questions, comments on what you have said, validates you because that means she’s curious. Remember, curiosity is part of what draws attraction. It’s all about that curiosity, she actually wants to get to know you, she’s really engaged in the conversation. It’s really important.
3. Look for eye contact and physical closeness
Speaking of conversation, there needs to be a combination between eye contact and physical closeness. She holds eye contact really well, looking into your eyes, while also glancing away at times. It’s an added bonus if she’s smiling kind of back. Once again, friends could do that too, right? Another aspect then is if she’s literally pulling in close. She’s really listening to you, and she’s obviously very interested and engaged in what you have to say. That nonverbal right there is very important. Nonverbals also include when she is playing with her hair, when she’s tilting back and forth and smiling and laughing at your jokes, that combination all together, there may be interest there.
4. Playful and teasing flirting
A huge sign of being flirty or friendly is when she’s very playful. She’s very playful by teasing you, tapping you on your shoulder. You may be having an adventure, and she’s pulling you to go on that adventure. All that kind of behavior, including the last one I just said, about playing with her hair and all of that. Any sort of playful, teasing, adding onto the humor, she initiates that at times, that’s usually a sign of interest as well.
5. She complains about being single
Last but not least, you know she’s interested when she really talks about how single she is and doesn’t talk about the guys that she likes or guys she thinks are cute, but she can’t get the chance or she talks about other guys and how they’re hitting on her. The combination of that is the key. Because if she talks about how she thinks other guys are cute and how she wants that chance with them or how she would totally date them, it’s usually a no go. If she’s talking complaining about guys and how she doesn’t really like any of those guys and talks about how she’s single and that she wants to go on a date, she may be hinting that she wants you to take her out on that date. Once again, it’s that consistent talk of how single she is. Usually, if it’s good she leaves out other guys. If she must talk about other guys, it’s basically to say you’re better than all the other guys she’s ever dated. Basically hinting for you to say, “Will you go on a date with me?”
All right. Those are the top five signs to tell if she’s being friendly or flirty. Once again, if you see those signs, make a move, follow up on it. Don’t just leave it there. It’s all about what you do. You can’t just sit there and think, “Oh, great, I got all these green light and green flags,” and then leave it there. If you see any of these signs, try to do something about it and see what happens. Something great could come from it!
Thank you so much for listening to this and I will see you next time.