You only get one chance to make a good first impression, so make the most of every date by giving it your all. But, how should you leave a good lasting impression? An impression that’d be on your first date, could be at a networking event, or at a mutual friend’s party where you’re meeting someone. You want to make a good impression and I will say, I don’t want you to only focus on this pertaining to just dating, because this can be very helpful in all situations. That’s why I mentioned networking. Or, even just a friend’s party where you realize, you couldn’t make more friends.
So, it’s not a bad thing to use this for other areas in your life. What is the key here? What is the key to making sure they walk away and remember who you are? And that way, they’re excited to continue to get to know you romantically, platonically, or professionally.
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What is the key here? Normally, in my videos, I have a one, two, three step, but there’s really only one thing I want you to focus on here, and I want you to solely only think about this.
Many times, when people go into conversations, they just go with the flow. They just see what comes up, and then see if the other person asks them questions, and then you just take it from there. And then if it feels right to ask to exchange contact or cards, you just do so. It’s really important to have and to understand what your intent is in all of this. What is the intent? your purpose? and what is the goal that you’re coming in they’re prepared? And the more prepared you are, the more closer you get to actually getting what you want, and at least getting close to the goal itself.
Know What You Want
When you go into any event or a date, here’s my one piece of advice for you…Make sure you know what you want to express about yourself. Make sure you know the qualities and traits that you would hope and want this other person to see. And if you have that on the top of your mind, no matter what, where conversations may go, you’ll always refocus and redirect to make sure that you’re saying these things about you, so that they can clearly see it. Not about what you’d like to do for fun, not about your interests, not about exactly what you do for work, but what is that truly saying about you? What quality, what characteristics does that show? So, what do I mean by that?
Here’s an example. I do this assignment with all of my clients for many, many years, actually, where they are able to figure out their attractive traits. And the part of that is writing in an Excel– it’s a whole thing I won’t get into today, of course. But I did that for myself when I was single many years ago. And what I’ve realized is, that there are top three qualities that I know I have that I feel would make a really strong impression and really strong connection with the people I meet and come by.
So, number one is that I’m a very passionate person. If I meet someone who’s also passionate, then it’s fantastic. We connect. But also, I hope that they see that I’m a passionate person, and if that stands out to them, fantastic. Number two, I’m very young at heart. I’m really silly. I’m very goofy. Yeah, I love Disneyland, and all those kinds of things. I’m very useful. I believe in keeping that youth alive. Number three, I’m spiritual. I am very much into spirituality.
How You’d Like to Be Known
Whenever I meet people, no matter what it is, I host meetup events, even those qualities, I would try to show to the attendees who come. So, no matter what conversations I’m in, let’s say, they ask about my job, “I don’t just talk about how I’m a dating coach,” and that’s that. I actually make sure the way I’m phrasing it is showing, I’m really passionate. I’m passionate about what I do. It’s not just about the title. It’s about this is how I’m passionate about it and why. So, they’ll walk away remembering, “Well, she’s really passionate person. That’s what I remember about her.” Or, number two, sometimes, I’m not afraid to show my humor. I’m really silly. And they’ll walk away thinking, “Oh, she’s really silly. Very young at heart. It seems she has a lot of energy or that youthful energy. Fantastic.” Same thing as spirituality.
I hope someone walks away thinking that, “Oh, she’s a spiritual person.” It doesn’t matter, if they can connect with me on that or not. That’s up to them. But at least, that’s the impression, because that is who I am. So, once again, if you remember that, I go into meetup events, networking, previously when I was dating, I knew going into the dates, “This is what I want him to know. Whether he finds out are attractive or not, that’s up to him. But I want him to have that impression of me.” I like to think that’s the impression I gave my fiancé. He did say that. He actually has seen those things within me and that’s why while we’re still together.
With that, when you have that intent, remember, wherever the conversation goes, you can even redirect questions. I’ve definitely redirected questions and just said, “Yeah, this is my job,” blah, blah. “I’m very passionate about it. What are you passionate about? Or, “Yeah, I love Disneyland. I love plushies and cute stuffed animals. I know that sounds maybe very young are silly of me, but that’s really who I am. Do you ever feel you have that side to you?” That’s it.
By having that on top of your mind, no matter where the conversation goes, you can lead it in this way, so that you can make sure, you’re expressing these traits about yourself. And then they will walk away knowing, “Wow, this guy is check, check, and check,” instead of saying, “Oh, this guy likes to hike and this guy likes to travel or likes food,” like many people do. Instead, the girl walk away saying, “Oh, well, he’s super adventurous, super open minded, and is very mindful. He loves the outdoors because he’s so mindful.” That is an impression. And that makes you stand out from other guys.
There’s another video about that. If you’re continuously curious about how to stand out even further, make sure you watch my video on that. But otherwise, that is the key to making a good first impression on dates and any other things. I hope it helps. Try it out, know what your qualities are, and put them into conversations.
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