How do I stand out above other guys? how do I separate myself from other guys? A common question I got a lot that I am going to discuss. Because I’m pretty sure you’re aware, all the attractive, smart, fun ladies, especially in online dating, you know they’re bombarded by messages and have plenty of likes. So, how do you make yourself stand out not just in the online world, but in person? Because it takes standing out in-person to on these dates leave a good first impression, where then she wants to continue to get to know you more.
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You are Different
The first thing I want to talk about when it comes to standing out is remember, you are different from everybody else. You are. You are the only you in this world. I’m the only me in this world. How do we let these women in your case see that? How do we get them to have this impression, where they’re seeing, “Wow, you’re different”? That’s what you want them to think, because many people have the mistake of believing that you have to be like all the other guys to get the girl. But that’s actually not the case. Women don’t date guys and think, “Oh, you’re just like the last two guys I dated. Fantastic.” No one does that. Instead, they’re really captivated by the guys who stand out because they’re different, they’re unique. You want to get to know the more, there’s a curiosity there.
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So, how do we stand out, how do we leave that first impression? Well, the first thing I want to share with you is, what makes you stand out is, as I mentioned, what makes you unique? But how do you find what makes you unique? It makes you unique are your attractive traits. It is. Do you know what your attractive traits are? There is a difference between knowing who you are and knowing your strengths as a person. But do you actually know what attractive traits to express to attract the one that you want? Huge difference. Huge. Most people approach online dating but just writing about themselves randomly, like these random facts and these random interests. When in reality, they’re not realizing, they’re not thinking about what their women want to see.
So, how do you find your attractive traits? Well, I actually go over that in my product. I have an attractive traits video and PDF on how to fully find him. But just to give you a little bit of a preview, one of the things, of course, is to stand out. That’s what builds attraction. The crush you had, she stands out to you and that’s why we’re making this video. It’s like, “Okay, how do I find out how I stand out?” Following up with what I said previously, what makes you unique are the reasons why you have your interests, and why you enjoy and do the interest that you have. It’s not about the interest itself. It’s about the foundation of it and your values.
Not Just Interests
Because I’m pretty sure you may have caught yourself doing this too, but many people on dates go into it without any direction or intent. Instead, they just try to get to know the girl and what ends up happening is when they talk about themselves, they just talk about their interests. They talk about how they like hiking, they like food, they like travel. You guys, do you know how many people like traveling? How many people love food are foodies and love new restaurants? How many people like hikes? If you’re in California, how many people love to surf? The biggest mistake people make is in conversations, they talk about the interest itself, “Oh, where did you travel to? Where did you go when you traveled to that location?” What ends up happening is, you talk more about the interest itself than about you.
What To Focus On
We need to focus on is making sure that your attractive traits are the first thing that is sad. The first thing that is mentioned, then the interest trail along afterwards. So, that way, when she’s getting to know you, she’s not walking away with the impression of, “Oh, this guy I dated, he likes to travel, he likes food, and he likes hikes.” And then, she likes the next guy, and he likes the same thing. No, instead, she could walk away saying, “Wow, this guy is super adventurous, such an adrenaline junkie, but all because he likes a good challenge because every challenge he does, he loves to grow.” That is a very big and lasting impression.
When she goes home and talks to her friend, who do you think they want to talk about more? The one that likes traveling, period? Or the one who was able to expand on his values in that way and she really connects on that. Because here’s the thing, guys. As a woman, myself, who has been single, really went through the trenches of it, many guys do the same thing. They always choose the easiest thing. Easiest thing. Online dating profiles, they choose two truths and a lie to answer. They’ll ask, “So, what do you like to do for fun? How are you? What do you like to eat? What’s the latest restaurant you’ve explored?” The profiles are the same. They list out their interests. “I like music festivals, I like hikes, I like–“
What makes you stand out is, how you express yourself. And not many guys are willing to or even think of expressing their values. That stands out, because it shows you have substance. I talked about Hinge profiles and the best prompts in my other video. So, make sure you check that so you know how to stand out from other guys on your profile as well. But otherwise, I hope that helps you today.
The main thing is, figuring out what makes you unique, making sure you really dive into your values who you are not just your interest itself. But at the end of the day, you know, you have multiple interests. It doesn’t matter if you don’t go out. Let’s say you love reading certain type of books or you like documentaries. There are reasons why you enjoy all these things. Dig into that, dig into the value, and show up in these conversations, leading with that attractive trait.
Now, once again, if you don’t know how to figure out what your attractive traits are, talk to me. I always invite you to have a free chat with me. Or better yet, it’s only 30 or so bucks to get my recorded video on how to actually figure that out. I hope you take that step. It’s very important. It’s probably one of the most important sessions I normally have with my clients. Figure out your attractive traits and go out there and stand out.
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