You have someone you are interested in, you get excited and start chatting with them. The conversation is pretty great, the responses get you excited for continuous responses. But, you notice one (pretty big?) concerning thing….She takes forever, days, hours, to respond
So you wonder
“Is there no girl out there for me?”
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What does this mean?
What is going on?
Why does she take forever to respond?
Is she pulling away from me?
Is she not interested talking to me?
Should you let go? Is she not interested? Is she slowly ghosting? or…should you wait for a couple of days?
Relax…take a deep breath
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Messaging and open communication is extremely important part of dating and is very essential from the very first date, it allows you two to get to know each other, build the connection, keep the momentum, understand each other point of view, draw curiosity, and keep a relationship strong throughout time.
When someone has a delayed response time, you start worrying if she is slowly pulling away from you.
What a slow message response time means:
I am here to tell you that delayed response time does not always mean she is not interested. (psst, small tip, being compassionate by having patience is a quality that attracts women )
Because guess what? She responded.
Quite honestly, a delayed response could mean two things:
- She is busy and she really did not have time to respond (this is highly likely if you send a lot of questions or send long messages)
- And yes, even during the time of the COVID-19 lockdown, people can still be busy. So do not assume she is not.
- She does not feel enough of a strong connection yet to feel extremely excited to answer you right away, but she’s still interested to see if something will spark. Know that having a good conversation does not mean she is interested to you that way.
If a woman is not interested, she will simply not respond.
There is no point for a lady who is not interested to wait days and hours to respond if she’s not interested.
There are two ways women who make it known they’re not interested.
The action none of us like, ghosting.
- Just like a ghost, she just vanishes and disappears out of nowhere. This will most likely happen if you haven’t messaged for too long because she feels there’s no attachment there to owe you an explanation.
She will tell you she’s not interested.
- This is a preferred method because at least you get your answer. But, unfortunately, not all women want to have this confrontation because she is afraid of how you will react to it.
Going back to delayed responses and what you can do. Recognize if she apologizes for the delayed response, she is acknowledging her fault and has still decided to talk to you!
Remember to always see everything for what it is, think about how it can work instead of thinking what can go wrong 🙂
In that mindset, if she still responds, but you’re still concerned about her response time, then the way to get the answer to your question of “what does she take forever to respond?”
is by…asking her.
It’s okay to be honest about what you are observing, as long as you come from a place of trying to understand her, women appreciate that. Watch the youtube video for an example of how you could word it.
Now, what can you do in the moment as you await a response?
You are waiting for a response for days and you’re wondering if she has let go of talking to you, could she be dating someone else?
My suggestion is to ask yourself…
What do I have control over?
What can I do?
The answer to that….you have control over yourself… you have control over your thoughts.
If you want to talk to her, then check in with her.
It is not annoying or pushy (you have waited 2-3 days, that is quite a plenty of time)
If she responds, great! Keep it going
If she doesn’t? Then, that is when you should let it go.
It is very possible for women to take days to respond, every woman is different in her reason why. Make sure you do not start assuming her story because assuming never leads to any good. You can also come up with some sort of time frame where neither of you has to wait.
You can always get your answer by asking her directly “I notice it is hard for you to respond haha What have you been up to?”, there is nothing wrong with checking up on her, as long as you ask her in a nice way. By doing so, won’t make you less of a person.
Do not worry about her reacting negatively, because as long as you feel like you are doing your best, you asked in the most respectful way, then how she perceives it is not your fault, well…at least you tried your best to know the reason why she is taking too long to respond.
Once again, if she is very slow in response, one of the reasons may just be that she is not that connected and excited about your conversation.
The difficulty of keeping the conversation going can be tough in person, but knowing how to keep things flowing smoothly both ways could make the conversation a little less awkward and boring. Find out in the button below the techniques on how to be a great conversationalist to spark interest.
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You can always do something
Do not think of the worse of a situation and scenario! Remember, there is something you can always do. Perhaps you can make yourself busy with something that is worth losing track of time for a while like your favorite hobby. It’s good if she responded to you and that’s ok too if she didn’t. At least you have proven that you can enjoy your time being alone and live your life with or without her.
Always know that I got your back.
If you get the chance to let her respond, Congratulations! A pat on your back! however…you should also know how to make your conversation flow and be interesting. If you find it challenging, Click here and I’ll walk you through it.