I’m going over the three ways to flirt with a girl over text, or online messaging, or any sort of messenger, anything where you’re texting and typing, because there’s no tone to it, but you want her to know that you like her. So, how do you do it?
The first thing I want to talk about in regards to flirting with a girl is to remember what the goal is. The goal is to let her know you are interested. Also, you hope that with what you’re doing, that she feels those butterflies in her stomach. You hope she feels that warm feeling that leads to a blush in her cheeks. That’s what you hope. The way to do that is by making sure that with everything that you do, you make her feel special. This is how you do so…
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1. Flirt with a girl by teasing the Future
The first way to flirt with a girl over text is by teasing towards the future. Now, I don’t mean wedding, kids, or anything like serious that. I just mean the potential great journey and adventures you two could have if you continue down this great path. Tease towards the things that you may share. Tease towards the potential adventures you guys could have if you go any further. That could simply be done by something that comes up in a conversation. If she were to ask you about a story, then you can say, “Yeah, I’m going to share that, if maybe things still go well in a couple weeks or so, because that’s story I only tell special people.” Even if you want to tease towards a phone call, you can say that as well.
If you want to tease towards, let’s say adventures or the future, if you are cooking like in this example, then you can tease towards it!
If you have a season pass or something, or you have some kind of special opportunity that only certain people that you bring and have, tease towards that and say, “If this all goes well, and if you become that special person, then we may do this in the future.”
Get her excited. This allows her to be excited to envision what it could be like if things go well for the two of you. It actually makes her want to see where it goes with you and to make it, because that all sounds really exciting and it sounds a really great kind of life you may have together.
2. Compliment her Qualities and Personality
The second way to flirt with a girl over text is by complimenting who she really is. Her personality and her qualities. It really touches a woman’s soul, when you compliment her strength that she already knows about herself (it proves that you actually know her), or you compliment qualities and traits that she doesn’t really say to herself, that no one else really tells her because they don’t remember or bother to.
When she is talking about herself and she showcases a really good quality that you appreciate, it could be her curiosity, it could be her independence, it could be your work ethic, then you right away will validate that and say, “That work ethic that you have with the kind of balance of how much you care for people and the impact that you make, that’s such a unique trait that I don’t really see ladies. And that’s something to really be proud of.” It’s that simple.
You just want to comment and compliment what you’re seeing that is really great about her. I will tell you this because a woman myself who has been single, not many guys do that. They’ll just get to know you and they breezed by it, but they don’t care to stop and say, “Those are really great qualities of yours. That’s what makes you so great. That’s a very attractive trait of yours.”
3. Make her Feel Special and Unique
Which actually leads to the third way to flirt with a girl over text, is by expressing how unique and special she is from everybody else. Quite honestly, guys, all a woman wants from their partner is to feel like they are different from any other woman you’ve ever met and ever seen. That’s it. We just want to feel that we’re special. We don’t want to feel like everybody else.
So, making sure that with those compliments even that you’ve made, you say that that’s unique, you say that that stands out above the crowd, you say that that’s an attractive trait that you don’t see in other people, and that’s exactly what you’re looking for.
Make it known that she is special, and you want to continue to get to know her because she is. It’s very important to be that expressive and be that direct. You can literally say, “I’ve never met someone like you, and you’re really special to me.” Even that direct, it’s perfect. That’s kind of the whole point. If you missed the other two things I talked about, this last one is quite important. That’s all you’re trying to do is just making her feel special. That’s what kind of gives that kind of warm feeling in anyone’s heart.
You can use these methods to flirt in person too
Those are the 3 ways to flirt with a girl over text and really get her to know that you like her and hopefully she responds well to it. That’s how you can really tell if she’s on the same boat as you or not. By the way, these are things that you can do in person as well. There’s obviously things that translate over to tex well. Hopefully, this helps you in your learning journey, but get out there, try it, see what happens, and take it from there. I believe in you. Don’t be scared to try. If you don’t try, you won’t know where she also stands. Go ahead and try it, challenge yourself, and good luck.