Best Virtual Date Ideas & Practices

Ever since the pandemic, online video dating became a normal new trend that connects singles from all over the world. It doesn’t have to be the pandemic, it could be long distance that forces you to do video dates. Or, maybe she’s out of town for 3-4 weeks, you want to create momentum instead of waiting. And sometimes, the “getting to know you” timeline has stretched to an average of 3-5 weeks. How do you keep her interested during this time? You want to make sure you keep these virtual dates interesting through this long period. So let’s go through best practices to make these virtual dates fun and allow the connection to last. Subscribe to my channel to get new dating advice every week.

 

Before we get started, if you wonder if women even enjoy virtual dates, here are some screenshots that will answer that:

 

How To Impress A Girl On A Virtual Date?

To impress a girl on a virtual date, preparation is key. Even though it’s a virtual setting, you still want to put your best foot forward. Remember to do your hair (or wear a hat if you have quarantine hair), wear a nice shirt (it doesn’t need to be formal; a good polo works), and just in case — wear pants. Shoes are not required in this case. Presenting yourself well shows you care about the date and makes a positive impression.

Additionally, ensure you have a clean and tidy background, good lighting, and a stable internet connection to avoid any technical glitches. Engaging conversation and genuine interest in her will also go a long way in making the virtual date a success. When you’re on a virtual date, it’s important to create an intimate and engaging setting, just like you would in person. Here are some tips to help you impress her:

How To Make A Virtual Dates Special?

Firstly, position yourself closer to the camera. Just as you would lean in during an in-person date to create a sense of intimacy, being closer to the camera makes the virtual setting feel more personal. Make sure the camera is at eye level to avoid any unflattering angles—no one wants to see a double chin!

Secondly, set up an interesting background. A bookshelf, artwork, plants, or collections can serve as conversation starters. This not only avoids the sterile look of a blank wall but also gives her a glimpse into your personality and interests. As one woman pointed out, the conversation during a virtual date has more focus, so having interesting elements in your background can make the date more engaging and enjoyable.

Remember, the goal is to make her feel comfortable and engaged, just as you would on an in-person date.

How To Make A Girl Interested In You Online?

Virtual dates can sometimes feel like business meetings when you’re just staring at each other with a blank wall behind you, struggling to think of what to say. To create a more engaging and organic conversation, make sure your background has interesting items.

These items can prompt questions like, “What’s the story behind that painting?” or “What book is that?” “Wow, cool set up, how did you get ___?”
This helps eliminate awkward pauses and encourages natural discussions.

Additionally, don’t stay stationary. Move around as you talk—grab a beer from the fridge, fetch a pillow to lean on, or get a snack. This movement allows her to see different parts of your space, gain more curiosity about who you are. Showing different parts of your environment can make the conversation feel more spontaneous and exciting, similar to exploring new places on an in-person date. Getting a little creative with your virtual dates can keep things interesting and set the stage for future dates.

What Is An Ideal Virtual Date?

The first date is usually kept casual where you’re casually trying to get to know each other. But, afterward, what else to do? Let’s say you two are long-distance dating or she’s not comfortable meeting in person yet.  You want to keep the video dates interesting to keep the momentum strong. You don’t want to keep doing the same ol’ boring face-to-face conversation with little movement for weeks, you’ll potentially lose that connection. 

Here are some great virtual date ideas: 

1. Watch a movie (there is a Netflix extension you both can add and you two will be synced while you’re watching) 
2. Dinner (cook “together” by showcasing you both cooking the same or separate dishes, then eating together. You can also deliver food to her as well) 
3. Play games (you can download the app “house party” to share games or if you have a game console, play online) 
4. Wine tasting (buy the same wine bottles and taste. Or try the tasting room, they’ll do it for you and deliver to your door)
5. Wine and paint night (you both get a canvas, paints/oils, turn on a YouTube video that shows you how to paint it, and drink wine)
6. Crafts (build or create something together) 
7. Stargaze together (both of you are on separate patios/porches, staring at the stars while talking to each other) 
8. Watch a live stream concert (many artists/DJs do live streams to promote staying at home. Make it a classy night with John Legend or a party with EDM)

How Many Dates Should You Go Online Dating?

When it comes to online dating, determining how many dates you should go on before meeting in person can be challenging. Depending on her availability, if you had a great call, make sure to ask about planning to meet in person at the end of the call! You’ll hear in her voice and expression her genuine interest (or lack thereof) when you ask her on the video call. That way, you can text about planning your date afterward. Aim to send texts similar to those my clients have sent me to finalize your plans.

How Do You Date Effectively Online?

Dating effectively online involves being proactive, creative, and adaptable. If you’ve done all of the above (or don’t align with it all), start by asking yourself, “What’s something I want to do?” The answer to this question can lead to shared activities that bring you and your date closer. You can also explore live streams and online events, as there are plenty of options available, especially on weekends. A quick Google search can provide numerous ideas for virtual dates.

If you find yourself messing up a virtual date because you’re not used to it, and you either clam up awkwardly or get too nervous, don’t worry! You can still save the situation. For instance, sending a thoughtful message, similar to the text below, can help you recover from an awkward date. It’s all about maintaining communication and showing genuine interest.

Dates should be fun, this includes virtual dates! And to keep it fun, you want to get creative but make sure it’s something you’re excited to do as well. When you are having fun and in an environment that helps you be yourself, the connection will be organic because you are genuinely having a good time. And you’ll soon be texting something similar to your friends: