Let’s talk about compliments. Specifically, when women compliment you. She’ll compliment by saying things like, “You’re one of my favorite people.” “You’re such a good, great guy. Any woman would be lucky to have you.” You recognize she complimented you, does she like you? What does that mean?
Well, I’ll be answering that for you here!
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When she compliments you, it’s the truth
The first thing that normally guys ask is, “why is she giving me this compliment?” The answer to that is because that’s usually…the truth, because she wants to. Compliments don’t come from some ill intent, they actually mean it, and they’re trying to either validate you, build you up, make you feel bad, or whichever it is, but usually, it does come from a good place. They normally don’t lie.
If you consistently doubt a woman or events at face value, always thinking in the negative, it’s important to work on your mindset.
Only she has the Answer
Now in regards to when she compliments you, does she like you? Now the question to that…here’s the truth: I don’t know. I get asked this question a lot. When guys will say
Let me tell you what she said…what does that mean? What does this mean when she says this?
The truth is, guys, the only person that has the answer is her. Now, I can give you a guess of what she might mean, basing off of how many times I’ve heard girls say this and what it could mean. At the end of the day, that’s just theory. She’s the one that actually knows the truth.
Does she like you? Get the Truth
There are actually ways to get your truth. That’s what we’re talking about today. To figure out what she means, and the steps that you can take to get there. Instead of asking anybody else what she means ( that’s what usually happens in this kind of scenario). Many of you guys will ask all your friends, any other girls, any other guys, date coaches, and figure out “she said this, what does it mean?” You’re asking literally everybody except for the person that actually has the answer. Asking everyone else to solve your problems is NOT healthy and it’s a habit that needs to be stopped as soon as you can. What I would suggest is you stop asking other people and do these next two steps.
Find out if it’s Romance or Friendship
Now, these compliments obviously can pertain to any situation, whether that be you’ve been friends for a while and you’re interested in her, it could be you met her at an event, and it was all casual first, you’re not sure. Or, it could be from online dating. Now, mostly, if you’ve met someone because you went to an actual dating event or a platform that’s made for dating, usually, it’s a good thing. Typically, it does mean that her compliments are meant in a romantic way. This question is a bit more relevant to those that are stuck in that zone, where they’re not sure if they’re just in the platonic zone or the romantic zone. That’s what this is about.
What are the steps to get your answer?
Follow up on the Compliment
The first step in order to get your answer of if she likes you, does she like you? is by, well, following up on it. Many guys will allow the compliment to happen and say thank you, just leave it be, and then go ask everybody else what it means. When she gives you that compliment, follow up on it.
If she says, “You’re one of my favorite people,” then ask
“what do you mean by that? Who gets to be in this circle? Do I get special treatment because of it? What are the qualities you look for when you are labeling someone as favorite?”
If she says, “You’re a great guy and a good guy. Any woman will be lucky to have you,” I would challenge her and ask her,
“So, would you date me?”
I know it’s a scary question to ask, but you need to challenge that. You need to, because you’re trying to figure out if she’s just saying that to kind of build you up, or if she’s actually interested, and she’s just waiting for you to make the move.
Get Feedback and Challenge Her
By asking that, you either get two answers, you get a yes, which is great! From there, if she says yes, then you can take that opportunity and ask her, “So let’s go out, I would want to take you on a date.”
Now if she says no, great, this is an opportunity to get feedback. Tell her, “I appreciate your honesty. Now tell me what do you think I’m missing so that I can work on that?” Ask her! Challenge her. Do not just let her sit there with that sort of compliment, and then you’ll stew with it for a really long time. When she compliments you, it’s okay to seek clarity to not misunderstand.
Challenge her on it. Any other compliments, once again, just follow up, literally, you can ask “what do you mean by that? Does that mean I’m a dateable person? Do you think I’m dateable to you? Would you like me? Would you date me? :)” Obviously, don’t ask ALL of those questions haha, just pick one. But, the main point is to challenge her on that. That’s the first step. Just follow up. Don’t let it sit there. Ask her, that’s it!.
Make the Move
The next step to figure out when she compliments you, does that mean she likes you is by..making the moves. Most of the guys that ask this question, they’re more on the shyer side, and they’re more scared to rock the boat and not be as flirtatious. But you won’t know if she’s interested until you test the waters!
Give her compliments. I talk about that in another post about how to give a woman compliments, and how to flirt . Do it and see how she responds to that. See if she giggles or she says, “Oh, thank you.” If you compliment her and say something like, “That’s very attractive of you,” and, “You’re very cute. That’s a very cute photo of you.” Send a photo of yourself with a “how do I look? :)” and see if she says the same thing.
Test out the waters, and you can figure out the confusion to when she compliments you if you take a chance and make it known that you’re interested. Make it known to her that you find her special, that you’re complimenting her now and see what she says, and if she gives anything back to you.
You’ve got to make the moves, guys. You can’t just sit around and act like you’re friends and hope that your compliment means more than that, and that gives you the green light. Get your answer and don’t be afraid to do it. That’s how you get it. That’s how you figure out if that compliment is flirtatious or if it’s a compliment that means nothing more than a good friend boosting you up.
Now be careful on putting so much value into the conclusion that you’re creating off of what she says. I talk about that in another video of if it’s being friendly or it’s flirty (coming soon), but just for now, in regards to compliments specifically, know what she means by asking her. That’s the simple answer.