Meeting someone new and wanting to feel the connection right away can be tough but there are different tricks to make it happen, and if you are preparing for a first date, you are probably wondering where to go and what to do. It can be a bit intimidating to think about spending time with a stranger. This is especially the case when you are trying to connect with a woman you really like, you want to do your best to make it a memorable experience, and of course…hopefully, get the second date. So, here’s the best first date to have (what to do and where to go) that’ll have her wanting more!….. And trust me, this definitely worked for me 🙂
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Best time for a date
Don’t worry about building a relationship just yet remember to take one step at a time. Instead, go out on a mid-afternoon date with no pressure. One of the many benefits of a mid-afternoon date is the fact that you can enjoy the rest of the evening together if it is going well. Or, you can choose to end it early and go your separate ways. You may also see she’s pulling away, so you’re giving her permission to end early as well. It is all going to depend on how the date is going and whether you are interested in spending more time together. Doing an afternoon date will provide you that flexibility for both of you!
First and foremost, before picking a specific place to meet, you want to pick an area in your city that will allow flexibility in where the date can go. You want to pick a location where you can walk around and explore after your first meet-up destination. A date that allows you to explore creates a space for spontaneity, fun, and conversation starters. Think of downtown, a village, or an outdoor small. By putting both of you in an area where you can face a variety of shops, it creates an opportunity to talk about various topics.
There is plenty to talk about! You can come across a candle-making store, so you create something together. Come across a playground and talk about your childhood memories. If there are restaurants nearby, you can somewhat do some people watching and you may also suggest going to dinner if you hit it off.
Remember the location of your first date could go a long way to determining whether there will be a second one. So might as well choose the best location. You can ask your friends for references or look for resources to get some ideas.
Once you pick the location, you can pick the specific place to actually meet.
Best places to go for a first date
No matter where you decide to go, always make sure that it is a place you are going to enjoy. This way, if you don’t hit it off, you will at least be able to say that you were in an environment where you were having a good time.
Because you’d be starting in the mid-afternoon, there are several places that have happy hour offers. Basically, this is an opportunity to get a cheap drink without the pressure of going to dinner. Find a comfortable and casual environment where the two of you can relax and enjoy a nice conversation. Remember, the goal is to connect. And you can only connect if you have a conversation.
Think about going out for a cup of coffee. Perhaps there is a local coffee shop with outdoor seating or any type of area with other shops around. If you decide to sit and chat, I suggest scooting your chair next to her if you decide to sit at a table. This helps create a more intimate setting so it doesn’t feel like an interview.
Any causal appetizer, bubble tea, desserts, and shops to grab something small works!
What to do on the first date: Part 2, Exploration
After about 30 minutes, you can already tell if you want to spend more time with her. It’s best to switch up the date by asking her “want to go walk and explore?”
By walking around an area, let’s say it’s an outdoor mall area, you may think about window shopping versus sitting face to face at a table. Walking side by side will allow you both to open up easier.
When it’s time to dine, sitting across from each other is good if you want eye contact, however, when two people look straight at each other at a dinner table, it can feel like an interrogation, there’s too much pressure. Being side by side feels more comfortable and it is going to remove a lot of stress from the scenario.
It’s okay to be uncomfortable
When it comes to going on a first date, it is generally not something that most people look forward to. In fact, it is almost always going to be uncomfortable for the first little bit, and remember, your date is also likely a little uncomfortable. It makes sense to do something flexible in a casual environment, to create a comforting environment since there won’t be any pressure.
And if you choose date spots that you genuinely want to check out, you’ll naturally have a good time. If you have a good time, she will too.
If there is an unfamiliar area that you are interested in exploring, take the opportunity to visit that area on your first date. Remember, don’t be afraid to get out and do some walking around! It will relieve the pressure of being on a date for the first time.
You never know, this may very well be the one that you are going to be with forever. A first date will definitely be awkward and can feel absolutely magical. However, it is worth it when you find the right one.
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