It is indeed, the best time of the year, and I’d like to go over how you can date during the holidays and how to make it work for you. I know I can probably list out a bunch of dos and don’ts. But if you know me, I like to help you gain an understanding of how dating works during the holidays, but how to make it work.
Like, what can you do during this time if obviously, you can date, because that’s one of the biggest questions. Today I’ll be going over three things.
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Number one is, can you date if you should date during the holidays? Secondly, how does offline dating or offline approaches work during the holidays? and lastly, online dating during the holidays.
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Should you date during the Holidays?
The first thing to go over, probably the biggest question every year during this time is given to me is, should I date? Should I date during the holidays? Is it even worth it? Do ladies date during this time? Should I just take a break then and then just wait until the New Year?” My short answer to this is yes.
Yes, date during the holidays. There is actually a time period where there is a high peak, and that is right after Thanksgiving, up to Christmas week. During Christmas, there’s a bit of a break because there’s a lot of festivities going on. Then the New Year, you can guess… is a high spike.
New Year, new me, the resolutions start. Singles are either re-downloading dating apps or just downloading it completely new, or they’re just active on it again, because coming back from the holidays and your family, you realize, maybe I should do something about this. All singles think this, not just men.
This season offers many date ideas.
People are dating during the holidays. There’s a lot of holiday festivities going on, so people are wanting to go out and experience these romantic events. Look at the lights, the holiday markets, the Christmas lighting festivals.
Especially for ladies who may not necessarily have a lot of friends or family in that city that you’re in, they’d want to find someone to go on a date with, to experience these romantic dates with. So, number one – You have a bunch of date ideas to go for now. Like I said, women are looking for guys to go on these dates with.
Number two, it’s cozy and it’s cold, and you can’t help but think about cuddling up potentially next to someone else. Just having that thought makes you think, “Okay, maybe I should be on these apps and do something about it.” I’m not saying she wants to cuddle with you right away. I’m just saying that’s what it leads to.
This season makes everyone happy
Number three, overall during the holidays, everyone is just feeling more joyful, and more happy. Just because there’s a lot of gratitude that is being felt just for the year and looking back and reflecting and having friends and family. Normally, not for all right, I know for some it can be a very sad holiday or they get into that kind of mood.
But for many, if they’re getting out there, and seeing the world and shopping and feeling all of his good vibes, and most of them are really joyful. This is a really happy time. The music has changed, they listen to more Christmas music.
They’re watching Christmas movies, there are Christmas holiday drinks. All of that, those kind of exciting things happening just adds to many, especially for women. Because our moods just get uplifted. So yes, you can date during the Holidays.
Offline approach and the Holidays
For offline approaches, this is a great time to try to approach some ladies. Especially if you have been uncomfortable in the past and you’ve been scared. This is a great time because you have more chances to start organic conversations and it’s more easy to come up with open liners, because many people during this time are shopping.
There are a lot of people out and about looking for gifts for themselves or for others. There are just more people out at this time. Another reason why offline approaches work during the Holidays is because there’s easy open-liners now. Friendly quality ladies are always open to helping anybody out.
If you just ask them, “Hey, what are your thoughts on this?”. You hold up these two shirts or, “Hey, can I ask for your opinion really quick?” Or, “Do if this is any good or not?” Easy-peasy. Like I said, many are not afraid to talk to others during this time because we all know we need help during this season. And any other extra thoughts would be great.
You can ask about yourself and say, “Hey, I’m investing in myself this Christmas, but what do you think looks good on me?” Or you can go to a makeup shop and say, “Hey, so I’m trying to get something for my sister. I have no idea about anything with mascara. Can you help me?” So do approaches. If you’ve been scared, you have more chances now for ladies to give you a friendly response than at any other time.
Online Dating During the Holidays
Lastly, let’s talk about online dating. What can you do during this time? Well, I still encourage you to be active online. But one of the biggest advice I would give is to now focus your topics on the holiday. This is a great opportunity to talk about how she spends her holiday.
What her family and her friends do during this time if they’re even in the city with her, if it is her hometown. What kind of events do they throw? It’s a great opportunity to open the conversation into a deeper topic. Like, asking about her relationships with friends and family and how she enjoys and appreciates the holidays or not.
Not everybody likes the holidays. You can talk about that as well. And use this opportunity to go into the New Year and already talk about, “Do you do resolutions?” “What do you have planned to wrap up the year and start the new year?” “Are you this kind of person that celebrates any of this?” It’s such a good conversation topic, and it only comes once a year.
When you’re talking to someone, this is a good time if you get stuck or you blank out, just ask, “So what do you have planned for the next or the last two weeks of the year?”
Holidays right after each other make everyone slow
Please remember, for online dating, Thanksgiving week and then Christmas week into the New Year, it’s just a very busy one for most people. Don’t get frustrated if you’re not getting matches or it’s slow for you. It’s just slow for everybody. We’re busy. Like I said, there’s definitely a few that may not be visiting their family this year or just normally have a quiet Christmas.
Don’t necessarily get completely offline because there are those ladies out there, too. I hope those holiday tips on how to make dating work during the holidays helps you. If you have any other questions, for the New Year.
I’m opening spots for one-on-one clients, so maybe this is your time to invest in yourself and give this Christmas gift to yourself. Spend some time with me to help you in your dating journey. Happy holidays!
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